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15 Tips on How to Be a Good Mother (Not a Perfect Mom)

Author: Laurie Hollman, PhD

Laurie Hollman PhD

Laurie, an accomplished psychoanalyst, illuminates child development, parenting, and more. Her expertise fosters resilient relationships and understanding in families.

Meera Patel DO

Dr. Patel has been a family physician for nearly a decade. She treats and evaluates patients of all ages. She has a particular interest in women’s mental health, burnout, anxiety, and depression.

A good mother is a good listener at all stages of development, from infancy to adolescence. This takes patience, not interrupting, and valuing your child’s thoughts, opinions, feelings, and perspectives. To do this well, you need to be ready to listen when the child wants to talk, not when it fits your schedule. Helping kids feel their unique significance is a remarkably important job.

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What Is a Good Mother?

A good mother learns what’s important to their child by listening to what they verbalize and understanding that behavior is a messenger when her child cannot articulate what’s on their mind. She rides with her child into their new developmental stages, new interests, highs, and lows, and loves them unconditionally despite puzzling behaviors, unexpected reactions, and lots of growing interests.

The type of listening a mom will need to practice depends on the child’s stage of development. As moms, we are often in tune with an infant’s nonverbal behavior. When the baby is sucking on a nipple and averts their head, they are saying I need a breather. Maybe I’ll have more, but maybe not. The attentive mom observes this behavior as a communication. 1

Less obvious is a child or adolescent’s behavior. If your child comes home from school and slams their backpack on the floor, consider what that action means before asking or demanding that they pick it up. The child is saying something about their day. The backpack isn’t really important. Take your time and continue to observe this child until they collect themselves. When they calm down independently, that’s your cue for an open-ended conversation.

Why Is Being a Good Mother Important?

Mothers who can transmit the message that their child is a valued member of the family, their school, and society will gift their child with grounded self-esteem. What could be more important than supporting the daily emotional and physical well-being of a child?

Because of the huge responsibility of raising a child, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed no matter how old your child is. Just when you think you’ve caught on to your two-year-old, six months pass, and it’s like another child has appeared before your eyes. Children learn so quickly, it’s hard to keep up.

But if a mom can learn that the unexpected is the only thing she can expect, then daily life may not seem so uncertain anymore. Understand that you can’t possibly know what to expect, so you shouldn’t blame or compare yourself unfavorably to other mothers.

Here are fifteen tips on how to be a good mother:

1. Take Time to Understand Their Behavior

When you see an off-putting behavior, instead of jumping to conclusions and impulsive reactions, take a step back and simply wait and see what happens next. While waiting, stay as collected as possible, which is calming for your child.

2. Learn About Child Development

In whatever venue that you are comfortable in, read or listen to blogs, print or digital or audiobooks, and various websites about expected child development. Once you’ve read a few, notice that there are not only conflicting opinions but that each kid is really quite individual. Your child has their own pace. Let them know that being unique is just fine. 1

3. Learn the Difference between Developmental Age & Actual Age

Remind yourself that there’s a difference between actual age and developmental age. Ten five-year-olds may have a range of aptitudes and interests in story times. The tip is to accept where your child is rather than compare them to the child sitting next to them in the library during story time. Some kids can read at three or four, while others begin at seven or eight. If you have regard for their unique “readiness,” then they’ll get along fine, and you’ll be proud.

4. Use “Feeling Language”

Using feeling language early on will help you and your child communicate. Everyday words like sad, happy, upset, mad, and later more challenging words like frustration, confused, and frightened give your child the words they need to tell you what’s going on in their emotional mind. There’s no such thing as a “bad” feeling or even a “wrong” feeling. Make sure your child knows you believe that.

5. Spend One-on-One Time

Playing with your child one-on-one, even when there are several siblings, is worth the effort. If each child knows that they will get time alone with you a few times during the week, they will come to depend on you, trust you, and simply delight in being with you.

6. Respect that Your Child Is Their Own Person

As your child grows, even during the first three years, they are discovering their thoughts may be different from yours and other kids. Let them know that’s super to think for oneself. Just listen to their thoughts without challenging them. Every conversation needn’t be a lesson. Just hearing your child’s own thoughts with respect is incredibly valuable. 2

7. Take Time for Self-Care

Me-time is essential for every mother. Mothering is work in itself. So like any job, you need time off. Think of it as mini-vacation time to gather your wits about you, enjoy your own interests, and even relax in the shower! Taking time for self-care will also model to your child the importance of them caring for themselves.

8. Be Willing to Say I’m Sorry

An apology goes a long way with kids and models for them that they, too, can make mistakes and say, “Sorry, Mom.”  Really feeling sorry for misconstruing your child’s behavior or words goes a long way in building trust, essential to the mom-child bond. Mom guilt is a wasteful emotion. Instead of sitting in the guilt of having done something wrong, give your child a simple apology, and allow yourself to emotionally move on.

9. Share Parenting Responsibilities With Others

If you live with a partner, share your thoughts about child-rearing. Open communication is essential, especially when you expect that disagreements are normal and that tempers may flare now and then, but reasoning and sharing different points of view win out in the end. This will also improve your relationship separate from the kids. 3

10. Recognize & Encourage Independence Spurts

Try to understand that when your two-year-old drops food on the floor, and when you pick it up and she smiles and drops it again, it is not an act of defiance or testing. It’s about learning what goes away can come back, and bits of food are ways to practice that essential learning experience. When this learning takes place, it furthers your child’s capacity for independence. This is progress—not defiance! Be proud.

11. Treat Tweens and Teens with Respect

When your tween or teen disagrees with your opinions, ask more about it. You may disagree with them, but asking them to think about other options, rather than blurting out your own, builds critical thinking skills. Listening to your child’s opinions is also crucial for your child to feel respected and worthy.

12. Make Learning a Priority

If kids see mom likes to learn new things and try to learn new approaches, they’ll follow suit. Your ten-year-old may begin to say, “Hey, Mom, I learned a new game. Want to learn it too?”  If your child enjoys a video game and can engage you in playing, this builds bonds of respect, sharing, trust, and learning.

13. Accept That Some Kids Are Extroverts and Others Are Introverts

Society tends to favor the kids who chat, make friends easily, hang out, and easily make conversation. But those aren’t necessarily going to be the happiest kids or even the smartest. Some kids are great at the alone time. They focus, concentrate, build Legos, and read a lot. They enjoy their own company. This isn’t something to worry about. This introverted child is not shunning others or not learning how to socialize. They’ll socialize but probably have friends one on one and enjoy me-time.

14. Make Empathy Part of Daily Life

Modeling empathic behavior will teach your kids to become empathetic individuals. When kids see you interact with strangers kindly, hear you respectfully communicate with their other parent(s), and enjoy learning how characters on TV think and act, they will begin to respond in kind.

15. Let Loose

Fun and a good sense of humor are essential for a happy family life. If a mom can laugh at herself sometimes, then her kids will be able to joke about themselves too. Minor slights will stay minor. Criticism will be constructive. A mom who enjoys humor is looser, lighter, and free-er to give and take with enthusiasm. This will result in her kids becoming good at joking, too. Laughing is essential in mom-and-kid relationships.

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How to Cope With Being An Imperfect Mom

Mom guilt is inevitable, but it’s essential to keep it in proportion and also allow it to become a motivation to try new approaches and accept one’s weaknesses. We can easily drown in our imperfections and expectations, but these negative emotions are not healthy for you or your child. Remember not to focus on your last step but on your next step.

Ways to cope with being an imperfect mom include:

Join a Mom Support Group

Support groups allow you to commiserate with other moms, normalize imperfection and receive advice. Sharing with positive understanding goes a long way. Support groups can be as few as three to five moms. They can take place in homes, in libraries, in adult education, in coffee shops, and the park.

Read Short Stories By & for Mothers about Mothering

Reading about how other mothers cope and succeed and goof up is so rewarding because you feel less alone without even talking to someone else. You can find stories about nothing in books, in mothering magazines, on websites, on blogs, and online.

Join Community Groups that Do NOT Focus on Parenting

Taking our minds and hearts away from mothering by developing other interests is so satisfying. If you have paid work, you may enjoy improving your education to get a promotion. You may love sports either by participating or going to games and matches. It’s such a relief to take a moment and remind yourself that you are a complex and dynamic person who is both a parent and also a person outside of parenting.

Think About Imperfection as a Way of Life

Understanding that imperfection is a part of life will give you perspective as a mom. It allows you to set goals and enjoy the process of reaching them rather than focusing only on the result. Experiencing motherhood without measuring how well you do at it is very satisfying.

Take Pride in Being a “Good Enough Mom”

The concept of “good enough” establishes a healthy perspective that relieves excessive worry, undue anxiety, and wishful thinking. Set reasonable parenting goals and share them with your partners, friends, and co-parents. Sharing, not advice-giving, goes a long way in accepting our imperfections and accepting we are flawed.

Recognize It’s Normal to Enjoy Some Stages More Than Others

Some mommies cherish times with infants, love breastfeeding, and are comfortable playing on the floor. Other mothers prefer reading times with five-year-olds who listen attentively and even say, “More, more, more.” Then again, some parents love engaging with teens the most when their cognitive abilities zoom, and they have loads of interesting ideas and interests. Not every developmental stage is the best for every mom. So go with the flow. Give attention willingly at all ages, but don’t fault yourself for enjoying some ages more than others.

Get Enough Sleep

Exhaustion impacts our perspectives. It causes undue worry, short tempers, illness, and easy frustrations.  Everyone, kids definitely included, needs to sleep soundly. Of course, mothers of infants have interrupted sleep. Mothers of anxious kids with nightmares have interrupted sleep. This is part of mothering, of course, but catch up on those interrupted nights. Sleeping in is not a bad thing. Our bodies and minds need rest to function well.

Having a healthy relationship with food is important for yourself and your child. Good nourishment is essential for brain development and physical and emotional well-being. But enjoying snacks and dessert can be fun and relaxing. If you accept imperfection, you and your kids will probably become more open to various tastes and even foods from diverse cultures.

Try Taking an Imperfect Vacation

In other words, with or without your kids, take some time off to hang. You may have dreamed about taking stimulating and educational vacations for your child, but that isn’t always the best plan. You don’t want to need a vacation after your vacation.

Additionally, vacations don’t need to break the bank. It doesn’t cost anything to spend a weekend watching movies or taking a hike in the park. Don’t feel guilty if you cannot afford to take your children to Disney or Europe. Any form of quality time doing something fun will leave your child feeling loved and create happy memories.

When to Seek Professional Help

Professional help is recommended if being a mother is distressing to the point at which your self-doubts about caring for yourself and your child feel overwhelming, and you feel helpless to turn the corner and enjoy parenting. It may be that your self-doubts are spiraling, leading to symptoms of depression and/or undue anxiety.

If you have a newborn, you may be experiencing postpartum depression , which involves feelings of being unable to care for your baby, insomnia , change in appetite, and difficulty with daily functioning. Medication and psychotherapy can relieve these symptoms and provide the support you need as a mother.

If your child is in primary school, middle school, or high school and feelings of depression and anxiety prevent you from communicating with your child, again, professional help is highly warranted. In addition, if you feel your child or adolescent is struggling emotionally, support and parental guidance for you and psychotherapy for your child or teen is also warranted.

In My Experience

In my long-time experience treating mothers, fathers, and children, it is most helpful for each family member to discuss their struggles with a specialist in parenting and family life. Fully understanding the approach to mothering that you wish to undertake can be a satisfying and positive experience expanding your connection and communication with your child and your self-esteem as a parent.

There are various parenting approaches that give a mother the skills to listen well to her child, understand positive and puzzling behaviors, and solve problems with her child collaboratively. The outlook is very hopeful when the value of parenting is understood, the developmental needs of your child, and how to combine various life situations that impact the family, such as economic resources, career and work life, and personal support. The mother who regards herself as having a significantly important job will see their child as an individual, not fitting some pre-designed developmental plan.

My most treasured parenting approach, parental intelligence, shows parents how to empathically identify the meanings that lie behind behaviors, find ways to understand your child’s mind as they are progressing through various stages of development, and develop daily attitudes that foster collaborative critical thinking, reasoning, and problem-solving with children of all ages.

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For Further Reading

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Depression in Children: Signs, Symptoms, & Treatments

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Essay on Qualities Of A Good Mother

Students are often asked to write an essay on Qualities Of A Good Mother in their schools and colleges. And if you’re also looking for the same, we have created 100-word, 250-word, and 500-word essays on the topic.

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Understanding and patience.

A good mother shows understanding and patience. She knows her child is learning and growing every day. Even when the child makes mistakes or misbehaves, she remains calm and patient. She guides the child in the right direction.

Love and Affection

Love and affection are key qualities of a good mother. She loves her child unconditionally and is always there to comfort them. She shows her love through hugs, kisses, and words of encouragement. This love helps the child feel safe and secure.

Good Listener

A good mother is a good listener. She listens to her child’s stories, fears, and dreams. By listening, she shows her child that their thoughts and feelings are important. This helps the child feel valued and understood.

Lastly, a good mother is a role model. She sets a good example for her child. She teaches them about honesty, kindness, and respect by showing these qualities in her own actions. This helps the child learn how to be a good person.

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A loving heart.

A good mother is patient. Children can be naughty and make mistakes. But a good mother does not get angry quickly. She understands that children are learning. She gives them time and space to grow. She guides them gently, even when they make the same mistake again.

A good mother is a good listener. She pays attention when her children talk. She listens to their ideas, dreams, and worries. She makes them feel important and valued. Her listening ear is like a safe place where children can share their thoughts freely.

Teaches Respect

A good mother teaches her children to respect others. She shows them how to be kind and polite. She helps them understand that all people deserve respect, no matter who they are or where they come from.

Strong and Brave

A good mother is strong and brave. She protects her children from harm. She stands up for them when they need help. She is like a superhero who is always ready to save the day.

In conclusion, a good mother is loving, patient, a good listener, teaches respect, and is strong and brave. These qualities make her a role model for her children. They learn from her and try to be like her as they grow up.

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Introduction, love and care.

The first and most important quality of a good mother is her unconditional love and care. A good mother loves her children more than anything in the world. She takes care of their needs, comforts them when they are sad, and celebrates their achievements. She is always there for them, no matter what.

Patience is another important quality of a good mother. Raising children is not always easy. There are times when they can be difficult and challenging. A good mother understands this and remains patient. She does not lose her cool or get angry easily. Instead, she deals with such situations calmly and patiently.

Understanding

Discipline is also an important quality of a good mother. She teaches her children the importance of discipline and good manners. She sets rules and makes sure that they follow them. But she does not use harsh punishment. Instead, she uses positive reinforcement and explains the consequences of their actions.

A good mother is a role model for her children. She leads by example. She shows them how to be kind, respectful, honest, and hard-working. She teaches them the importance of good values and morals. Her actions inspire them to be good and do good.

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How to be a good mom: Ditch perfectionism and embrace being ‘good enough’

Your child needs you—a healthy version of you—not a perfect you.

By Claire Nicogossian, Psy.D Updated July 24, 2024

The perfect mother doesn’t exist, full stop. As a therapist for over 20 years, one of the most common recurring themes that comes up in  therapy  is moms who are battling their desire for  desire for perfectionism and wondering how to be a good mom. I take it on as a clinical mission to help moms let go of this notion of being a ‘ perfect mother ,’ how to work through the instincts behind perfectionism and instead start to embrace imperfection.

Simply stated, there is no such thing as a perfect mother.

The definition of ‘perfect’ is to be flawless, complete in all aspects and demonstrating excellent skills. When we are ‘perfect,’ we have no need to grow or advance any further.

Related: Letting go of perfection helped me be a better mother

When we strive to be ‘perfect,’ and let our knee-jerk perfectionism win, we let our children down.

Why? Because we begin to show our children, model through our beliefs and behaviors, that anything less than  perfect  is a failure.

Our children need to learn through our example. Part of the process of growing up means making mistakes through trial and error. As a child grows up, so too does a mother, gaining wisdom and experience along the way, including making mistakes and failing.

Here’s how to be a good mother in 10 steps:

1. take care of yourself.

One of the greatest gifts you can give to your family is to take care of yourself; your body, mind, feelings and spirit. So many women are used to putting themselves last on the to-do list. They become so focused on giving everything without ever having a limit that they either get sick, become resentful, or forget what it’s like to nurture themselves.

By taking the time to care for yourself, you create a healthier, stronger way of being which allows you to care for the children and other people in your life more fully and with enjoyment.

Related: The best thing you can do for your child? Take care of you

2. Love and accept yourself

Mothers are amazing at being able to unconditionally love their children. But what about unconditionally loving yourself? How often do you have a critical voice in your mind, judging your efforts, putting yourself down and criticizing yourself?

Silence the critic  of perfectionism and increase positive self-talk in the same way you’d talk to a friend or your child.

3. Realize that you’re a mom for life

In the span of a lifetime, your child will have many relationships. Being a mother to your child is by far one of the most, if not the most, impactful relationship. Understand that mothering a child is a lifelong commitment to nurturing, teaching, caring for, guiding, loving and supporting another person’s growth through the lifespan.

4. Create a life for yourself separate from your child

Your child will need you in different ways across the lifespan. A baby needs its mother to be attentive at a moment’s notice to feed, change and cuddle. As the child moves into toddlerhood, childhood and the teenage years, the needs change.

Being available to your child is vital, but so is having a life of friends, interests and activities separate from your child. You still need to fill your own cup.

Related: Science confirms you are a different person after giving birth

5. Learn to apologize

When you make a mistake, do something hurtful, lose your temper or forget to do something, it is important to learn the skill of apologizing. This is not to be confused with the overuse of saying “sorry” experienced by women for asserting themselves or having a thought or feeling. I’m not talking about saying sorry for just anything, rather, learn to apologize when you make a mistake or engage in behavior that hurts someone else or impacts a situation with your child.

6. Be open to your child’s feedback

Children communicate many things through behavior as well as words. Listen to your child when they have something to say, focus your attention on them. You may not agree with their feedback, but giving your child the time and space to hear their thoughts goes a long way in their development and self-confidence.

Response: Why I apologize to my children

7. Spend quality time with your children

Parents are busier than ever these days. As mothers, we are pulled in different directions to support our children that have little to do with spending quality time with them. Your child needs regular and routine quality time with you. Make this a priority every day.  Ask questions  and be curious. The answers they give you may just delight and surprise you.

8. Don’t take your child’s misbehavior personally

You’ve heard the expression “growing pains”—well that not only includes children. Parents also feel the growing pains in reaction to the push-pull of independence and autonomy as a child grows up.

Independence and growth often result in conflict—your agenda versus the agenda of your child. Sometimes it’s easier to understand a toddler saying “no” and throwing a tantrum than when a tween or teen does similar behavior.

In moments of frustration, try to see the message your child is trying to communicate and don’t take his/her behavior personally. It likely has more to do with child development than you as a person.

Related: The real reason your kids act worse for you than anyone else—and how to help

9. Show your feelings, but don’t overwhelm your child

Modeling how to manage your emotions is an important lesson for children. When you’re feeling an emotion, for example having a bad day, own your feelings if it is impacting your behavior. Saying to your child, “Mommy is feeling upset about something that happened today so I may be a little quieter, I just want you to know.”

Not only does this type of dialogue and interaction help model healthy mood management, but it also allows your child to understand your behaviors and feelings are not the results of something they did. Children often like to fill in the gap to make sense of the world, and they do so by sometimes making assumptions it was their fault.

Related: How to correct a child’s ‘bad’ behavior with positive parenting

10. Allow your child to be who they are

Personality and temperament are strong characteristics of a child. Of course as mothers, we want to influence, shape and expose our children to many opportunities. Children often know who they are and what they want. Part of our job as parents is to find a balance between encouragement and influence, exposure and independence.

Allow your child to be who they are with guidance, love and support from you.

Motherhood is an individual journey with many universal shared experiences and feelings: moments of worry, fear, anger, frustration, annoyance, sadness, exhaustion heartache, embarrassment, joy, gratitude, happiness and contentment.

When we buy into perfectionism, we lose an opportunity to understand how challenging emotions— the ones that stretch us and push us—are the feelings where we learn the most about ourselves.

The more moms are willing to share how they feel, what they need, or what may be going on beneath the picture perfect surface, the closer they’ll gets to improving their well-being and happiness.

A healthy mom is the foundation for creating good moms. And remember: Your child needs you—a healthy version of you— not  a perfect you.

A version of this story was originally published on October 25, 2021. It has been updated.

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Motherhood Changes Us All

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The most memorable moment of becoming a mother often involves a single day. You gave birth, or the child someone else baked inside comes into your life. It’s a before, and an after. But that first day is only the beginning of an identity shift that is ongoing and eternal. The person you are after the first year of motherhood is not the same person you are after year three, year 10 or year 40.

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We have short essays about how becoming a mother changed the way we look at ourselves, from our relationships to our own ambitions, as well as failure, body image and more, written by Amber Tamblyn, Casey Wilson, Nikole Hannah-Jones, Angela Garbes, Robin Tunney, Jennifer Weiner and several others. There’s a piece by Jenni Gritters about how motherhood rewires your brain, and another by Pooja Lakshmin, M.D., a perinatal psychiatrist, about how not to lose yourself when you become a parent.

During this coronavirus pandemic, it can be hard to know who we are as people, as the barriers between our public and maternal selves have collapsed in ways we never considered. But if there’s one thing to take away from all of these stories, it’s that your identity as a mother isn’t fixed; it’s likely to change in ways that will surprise and maybe even delight, as you and your children grow.

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Essay on Mother | Long and Short Essays on Mother for Students and Children in English

May 5, 2022 by Prasanna

Essay on Mother: Mother as we all know is the greatest blessing of God in everyone’s life. The love and sacrifice a mother holds in her heart for her child is immeasurable and undoubtedly the maximum. A mother remains a mother for her child even if the child has now become an adult.

Without a mother the existence of this world is impossible and unimaginable. Mother is the first best friend or BFF as the children now say in a child’s life. It is really hard to find a true best friend like her who supports us in every difficult situation and the good deeds we do but also helps us to take the right path in life.

She is always there in our good as well as bad times. A child is the first priority of a mother even if she has to ignore herself for the child’s wellbeing. That is why, to celebrate the true spirit of motherhood, Mother’s Day is celebrated on 5th May of every year.

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Long Essay on Mother 650 Words in English

Mother can be defined as the source of joy and happiness in a person’s life. She is the one who from the birth of the child to his old age stands beside him in every phase of life. There’s a saying that God cannot be everywhere so he created Mother. It is actually true as she is like a goddess in everyone’s life caring and nurturing without any set terms and conditions.

He created someone who would bring joy and make a mundane life into a lively one because that is the requirement of a baby. She is patient, strong, supportive, lovable, humble, authoritative, all at the same time. All these qualities are very difficult to find in a single person but see we can all find them in a mother. She is an amazing human being who surprises us everyday with her incredible traits. She is the one who will accept her child in any situation no matter what.

She is the one who brought us into this world and is trying to protect us from any evil eye. We hear people saying that internal beauty is more impressive than outside beauty, a mother is the perfect example of this as she has the most loving heart with the face of an angel. For a child his or her mother is the most beautiful person in this whole world. A mother’s bravery can be compared to a warrior as she will fight to any extent against any odds for the safety and well-being of her child.

Every child should try to be brave like their mother who is not willing to give up when difficulties show up. The compassion a mother holds proves to be the strength for a person whenever they find themselves in a difficult situation. A mother tries to stay updated with the latest trends in every area so that her child can discuss everything with her without any hesitation due to the age difference. She is the friend, philosopher, guide and teacher in each one’s life no matter how old we get, we still need her.

She can tell whether our situation is happy or sad just by looking at our faces, without a word spoken. She helps in our decisions be it career-related, educational, or any other irrespective of or without any bias. She is the one who takes us on the right path if we get distracted or get involved in the wrong company. How lucky are those people who get the selfless and unconditional love of their mothers? A mother is a mother after all who is the representative of God on this earth. What a child shares with her mother are a lifelong bond that is created just after the moment a child is born. A mother’s love is extremely important for the healthy upbringing of a child.

Short Essay on Mother

• A mother as we all know is the epitome of love and sacrifice. She is always ready to do anything for her child even if it is the risk of her own life.
• She is the one who works for the child’s wellbeing, growth, development, and welfare all through her life. She feels herself committed to the child she has given birth to without any expectations or conditions.
• A mother plays a very important role in a person’s life as she is the protector, guide and philosopher of him or her. That is why everyone needs a mother even if they themselves have grown into adults and have even entered parenthood.
• A young mother also needs the guidance of her mother to take care of the newborn as a mother can only guide us to the right path.
• Mothers often spend sleepless nights in order to take care of the newborn or the sick child without any complaints. She teaches us to remain strong in every difficult situation of our life.
• She is like a goddess or has superpowers because she takes away all the pains and difficulties of a family in such an easy way.
• Mothers are very soft-hearted and can melt even if the child has a little cold and cough. They cannot see their child in any difficult or uncomfortable situation.
• They are humble, simple, and always ready to participate in a kid’s talks and activities.
• She is a living example of how to face a difficult situation, how to multitask and that too with utmost love and care.
• Every person has a teacher in their mother who inspires them to achieve their goals, stay happy and healthy.

FAQ’s on Mother Essay

Question 1. What is the best definition of the word Mother?

Answer: A mother is a female parent of the child. She gives birth and also takes care of the child. She’s full of warmth and love. She acts as a teacher, a friend, a doctor and plays all roles for the betterment of her children.

Question 2. What does it mean to be a mother?

Answer: Being a mother is a tough task as you need to always keep your children on priority. Nowadays mothers multitask and also give importance to themselves to take better care of their kids as you can’t pour from an empty cup.

Question 3. Why do you love your mother?

Answer: I love my mother. She’s always there for me. She’s my strength and critic too. She acts as a teacher, chef, and doctor for me. She’s so loving and joyful.

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Essay on Mother for Students and Children

500 words essay on mother for school students.

First of all, Mother is a word which fills everyone with emotions . A Mother is certainly the most important human being in everyone’s life. Mother’s Love for her child certainly cannot be compared with anything. Her level of forgiveness is unmatchable. A Mother is capable of forgiving any wrongdoing. Mother is the most important woman in everyone’s life. A mother sacrifices her happiness for her child. No one else can care for their kids the way a Mother does.  A Mother is great and does not need anyone like me explaining that. This essay on Mother is a small attempt to discover the greatness of a mother.

Importance of a Mother

First of all, Mothers are highly responsible women. They certainly play a very important role in the upbringing of a chil d. Most noteworthy, Mothers play a huge role in determining a child’s attitude. Whether a child will be good or evil in the future depends upon the Mother. The moral values taught by Mother probably play a huge role. Individuals often remember their Mother’s values until old age. Hence, the Mother is responsible for the well-being of society. The future of society in a large way is the result of a Mother’s teaching.

Mothers share a deep connection with their children. This connection certainly cannot be matched by anyone else. Even fathers fail to establish that type of understanding. The origins of this connection happen from infancy. Most noteworthy, a Mother can understand her infant child without communication. This certainly develops a strong emotional connection between a mother and child. This bond seems to carry into adult life. A Mother, it seems like, can always tell when we are feeling hungry.

Mothers also are the emotional backbone of the family. They support everyone’s feeling in a family. Family members can certainly tell their emotions to Mothers without worry. An individual can share almost any secret with Mother. This is because Mothers have a huge level of trust with their family. Furthermore, Mothers have an extremely forgiving nature. Hence, even wrongdoing can be shared with a Mother.

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How to Support Mothers?

First of all, Mothers are precious gifts from God. Without mothers, life would certainly be dark and gloomy. Therefore, it is our duty to help and support our Mothers. One important way to do that is to help in chores. Individuals must try to do more household work. This would certainly reduce the burden of Mothers. Hence, this will also improve her health. Another way of supporting Mothers is to speak words of affirmation.

Most noteworthy, a Mother’s heart is made of gold. A few words of acknowledgment would fill her heart with happiness. There are probably several ways of doing so. One way is to praise the meal cooked by her. Above all, such acknowledgment should come on a regular basis.

A Mother is a gem in everyone’s life. She is the ultimate source of happiness for a child. Her contributions are certainly too great to imagine. Above all, her love is pure and innocent. To find a Mother who does not love is probably an impossible task.

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Q.1 At what age a child forms an emotional connection with Mother?

A.1 A child forms an emotional connection with his mother from the age of infancy.

Q.2 Mention one way in which children can help their Mothers.

A.2 Children can help their Mothers by speaking words of acknowledgment. This is one way of certainly helping Mothers.

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How to Be a Good Mother (90+ Effective Ways From Experts)

Being a mother is one of the most important jobs in the world. It can be challenging, rewarding, frustrating, and joyful all at the same time.

However, many wonder what it really means to be a “good” mother and how to become one.

According to experts, here are the effective ways to be a good mother:

Natasha Aoki Rezende

Blogger | Content Creator | Founder, Only Child World

Being a good mother is one of the world’s most rewarding yet challenging jobs. Unfortunately, there are no handbooks or instructions on doing it right, but a few things can help make the job easier.

One of the most important things to remember is that  being a good mother is more than caring for your children . It’s also about setting a good example and teaching them how to be good people.

Here are a few tips on how to do that:

Accept that you are not perfect 

With social media bombarding us with tons of  “perfect”  mothers, it’s not hard to feel like we’re falling short. 

However, it’s important to remember that what you see on social media shouldn’t be the standard by which you measure yourself. Accepting that you’re not perfect will take the pressure off your shoulders and teach your child that mistakes are okay.

Teach your child the importance of self-worth and self-care

One of the best things you can do for your child is to teach them the importance of taking care of themselves physically and mentally. 

Good habits like  eating healthy ,  exercising ,  respecting their wishes , and managing their emotions  are excellent examples. 

When children understand the importance of self-love and self-respect, they’re more likely to grow into adults who do the same.

Provide emotional support  

When your child knows they can rely on you, they will feel  more secure and confident . 

A study published by the American Psychological Association concluded that adults who received emotional support from their mother or father during childhood were less likely to develop depression or chronic health conditions such as hypertension . 

Furthermore, early parental emotional support appears to enhance self-esteem and family relationships.

Encourage your child to be the best version of themselves 

Allow your child to be who they are, not who you would like them to be . Respect their individuality and preferences and let them know that you accept their choices. 

Focusing on their strengths instead of trying to fix their weaknesses will help them develop into confident and booming adults.

Be firm but tender 

It’s essential to be straightforward with your children when setting rules and boundaries. Kids need  structure  and  discipline  to thrive. 

However, it’s also important to show them  love  and  compassion . So when you act firmly with your children, do it with  respect  and  understanding . This will help them feel secure and loved and more likely to listen to you.

Let your child take the lead 

We all want the best for our children; sometimes, that means taking a backseat and letting them take the lead. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t guide them or offer advice, but it’s crucial to let them make their own decisions and choices. 

Allowing your children to do so will help them  learn  and  grow  as individuals. Research shows that parenting over-engagement would negatively relate to children’s self-regulation. 

By stepping in whenever your child is struggling, you may actually hinder their development.

Be patient 

Patience is a virtue you’ll need a lot as a mother! Sometimes your child will test your limits, but it’s important to remember that they are still learning and growing. 

When you show them patience and understanding, they’ll be more likely to offer the same to you and others.

Instill your child with a thriving mindset 

Self-confidence, self-control, empathy, integrity, curiosity, perseverance, and optimism. After years of research, Dr. Michele Borba , an educational psychologist, identified these seven traits as the essential character strengths for kids to thrive. 

Your child becomes more resilient by learning these strengths and increases self-awareness, moral judgment, and emotional agility. 

Teaching your kids how to become thrives is probably the greatest gift you can give to your child — all life skills that will help them enormously in their childhood and as they grow into adults.

Have a separate life outside of motherhood

Being a mother doesn’t mean you have to give up your life’s personal or professional goals and aspirations. On the contrary, you’ll set an excellent example for your children by staying connected to your passions and interests. 

You can still be a fantastic mother and have a successful career or pursue other interests. In addition, your children will benefit from seeing that it’s essential to lead a fulfilling life outside of being a parent.

Don’t take things personally 

Your child might do or say something that hurts your feelings, but it’s essential  not  to take it personally. They are still learning and growing, and sometimes they might not have the best way of expressing themselves. 

Remember that it’s not about you , and try to see things from their perspective. If you can respond to them with love and understanding, they will learn to do the same.

Related: How to Not Take Things Personally

Create long-lasting memories 

In our fast-paced world, it’s easy to get caught up in the day-to-day grind and forget to enjoy the little moments. But as a mother, one of your most valuable gifts to our kids is to create memories that will last a  lifetime . 

Whether taking a family vacation, going on a hike, or simply spending time together at home, make sure to take the time to create positive memories with your children. 

These will be the moments that they cherish and remember for years to come. You don’t need to spend hours or money — focus on creating quality time together.

Being a good mother is about more than just following a set of rules — loving , understanding , and  patient . It’s also vital to have your own life outside of motherhood and instill a thriving mindset in your child. 

By following these tips, you’ll likely be able to raise a  happy and  successful child who feels loved and supported.

Catherine Berra

Author, “ These Stories Are True… I Shit You Not: A Humorous Look at Online Dating for the Unsuspecting Older Human “

Always be there and take care of your children emotionally

If anyone had told me 30 years ago, when I was pregnant with my son, that his father would literally abandon him at the age of 10, I would have told them they were crazy. But it happened. 

I persevered as most women do in dire circumstances, but the dynamic it created between my son and I shifted my perspective, expectations, and reality in a very short period of time.

To me, the concept of being a good mother always meant being there for your child(ren) and taking care of them emotionally. Being thrown into the role of mother AND father alters the course of the child’s life and yours. 

There were dark days, many mornings spent crying in the shower while I got ready for my full-time job, and months and years of dealing with my son’s anger and abandonment issues. 

But we made it. He is now almost 30, and I can honestly say that, even though he has  not  seen his father since he was 12 years old, our relationship has come full circle to an understanding.

Prioritize and not give in to the pop culture craze and peer pressure

Children do  not  know anything but what their environment provides. Kids are now so overtly affected by social media that it damages their realities and concept of communication altogether. 

But from my standpoint, trying to be a good mother during the inception of the social media and cell phone craze, I feel as though I did my best and was  strict about many aspects of the video game and internet inundation. 

But also made a point of making it very clear to him that, during his growing-up years,  my role was  not  to be his friend but his parent . 

My role was to guide and instruct and try the best that I could to be both mother and father (the latter, which I despised). 

To be a good mother, especially now that a majority of women work out of the home, is to prioritize and not give in to the pop culture craze and peer pressure.

Spend time with your children 

I recently told my son that I was really angry for a long time that I was thrown into both parental roles; that my dream was to be able to spend time with him and provide him the  love  and  support  he needed. 

While I did do those things, our life also became a series of chaotic years and stressful days. 

In retrospect, I see that I did the best I could with what I had and reflect on some very unfortunate yelling episodes and comments said out of exhaustion. 

Understand that you all have limits

My favorite one to tell is the time when he was 14 and kept badgering me for money to buy some mundane object. I lost my temper and yelled,  “I do not shoot money out of my ass!”   

As funny as it is to tell now, I am mortified by my lack of strength at that moment but have also given myself the grace to understand that, as women,  we all have limits . 

On a good note, after watching Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer every Christmas eve for almost 25 years together, when we get in the car together, I always say,  “Ready Rudolph?”  and he will undoubtedly respond,   “Ready Santa.” A quote from the movie that is our fun  “thing.”

Communicate truth and create parameters

Being a good mother, I believe from the time children can understand rules, it is to be honest, communicate truth and create parameters within which your relationship can thrive into adulthood. 

I am getting there with my son. We still argue about certain things, and yes, I have quirks that make him nuts. He lives in New York City now, and I see him a few times a year. 

As I get older, I realize that these times together are precious. We reflect, recollect and reminisce now, which helps to ease the pain of the past and pave a new path forward for us.

Being a good mother is not easy . Each of us has our own past familial environments upon which we base our own parenting.

Life is different now. It is so different from my young days, and the cost of living, in general, puts a huge burden on the younger generations. 

Do your best and keep an open mind

All we can do is our best .  We must keep an open mind , know that life is constantly changing, and we must  respect  and  honor  the lives our young or adult children choose.

I am a good mother, with flaws and quirks and all. I wouldn’t trade my experiences as a mother/father figure for anything in the world. 

He has watched me work my entire life, and as my brother so lovingly reminds me, my son did  not  learn his work ethic from his father. I am proud of that fact.

I am now an author and consultant and continue to show my son through my actions that life is a process and a never-ending opportunity to learn and make ourselves better. 

We are all human and must give ourselves grace.

Luz Casquejo Johnston, Ed.D

Founder, Parenting On Purpose

Invest time in personal growth 

Parenting can be an opportunity for personal growth. Luckily for you, as your child grows, you grow, too, which means that when your child is a baby, you are a  “baby”  parent. You can learn what you need to know as you go along. 

You don’t need to be an expert. You also don’t have to repeat any patterns that you are carrying from childhood. It’s natural as your child grows to remember that age and any  patterns ,  hurts , or  traumas  that may have occurred during this time. 

Take this as an opportunity to change any family patterns. Be intentional and find support as you do this. It is natural to struggle with parenting when trying to undo patterns because it’s easy to default to what you experienced. 

This is not your fault, and it can be changed . You may find that as you change your patterns, you heal from those patterns. What a gift!

Fail forward 

Give yourself time and grace to learn how to be a parent. Even folks who studied child development find themselves stymied when faced with real, live human children. 

Every attempt at learning how to do parenting will get you closer to being the parent you want to be. Celebrate each attempt, no matter the outcome because it means you are working toward your vision. 

Be proud of the fact that you have a vision and you know where you’re going!

Remember that social media is fake

Instagram and Facebook parenting influencers curate and create content that makes parenting look easy and breezy. It is neither, and that’s okay. Get support, not hacks from trusted sources.

Be an ally, not a friend 

Your child is  not  your friend. Children need structure and support. They need to grow up in a home that feels safe. Safety comes with strong foundations and strong boundaries. 

I think of the parenting journey as coming in two phases: 

• The Active Phase  – from birth until 18-ish. This is when you are helping your child learn how to become a high-functioning adult, including learning  values ,  routines , and  skills . 
• The Counsel Phase  – from 18 on. During this phase, your child craves your closeness and counsel but does not need you for day-to-day support. 

In order to get to this phase, there’s a lot to set up in the Active Phase.

Create your family with your family

Remember where you got your model of parenting and family? Well, now it’s your time to model how to define and create a family.  Be intentional , talk about everything and get input from your child in a way that’s appropriate for their age. 

Children are constantly absorbing everything around them. They hear:

• How you talk to yourself.
• How you talk to other adults.
• How you talk to other children. 
• How you talk to them. 

Start by talking about what you’re doing and why you’re doing it. This can be as simple as shopping for groceries to picking out clothing. You can share with them how you’re feeling and what you’ll do to solve any problems you face.

Tomika Anderson

Writer | Former Journalist | Certified Life & Executive Coach, Coach Tomika Anderson

Create a time and space just for you and your child

Listen without interrupting and if you interrupt by accident, apologize. This demonstrates  respect . Create a time and space just for you and your child each week where you’re  not  on your cell phone or otherwise occupied by other matters. 

Again, this shows your child you respect their feelings and desire — and yours — to spend quality time with them. Show up to your kids’ activities like sports games and Boy Scout meetings. 

Use kind/positive language toward them

Use kind/positive language towards them even when you’re upset with something they did — your voice becomes your child’s internal voice, and you want it to be loving. 

Don’t resort to violence

Don’t hit. Ever. Demonstrate that it’s possible to discipline/get your point across without resorting to violence. And if you come from a yelling family, do your best to do a reset continually. It matters. No matter how much you fail, keep trying. 

Related: 20+ Signs of Toxic Family Relationships and What You Could Do About Them

And since we are on this topic, go to therapy, so you’re in a position to give your child the best while breaking negative generational cycles. 

Be honest with them at all times

Give your child age-appropriate chores, so they learn necessary life skills and discipline. Be (age-appropriately) honest with them at all times, even about hard things. 

Tough conversations help build and demonstrate trust and can deepen a commitment to honesty on both sides, which will matter a lot as they get older. 

Know and proactively speak your child’s love language

There are quizzes online that will help you learn it, and then you can actively find ways to demonstrate your love for them in the ways they most feel it. 

Create ritual and tradition 

One of ours is eating together every night and talking about our days; another is annual trips to the pumpkin patch. 

I think the biggest thing is being humble enough to  try ,  fail  and  adjust : My son communicates with me what’s working and what’s  not  regarding my parenting and I think caring enough to listen with the as little ego as possible goes a long way towards helping me continually improve as a mother. 

Star Staubach

Parenting & Life Coach | Podcast Host, “Blog Talk Radio”

Guess what? As much as I’d love to provide it, there is no one right formula to follow to be a  “Good mom.”

As a new mother, that statement made me feel  relieved . I thought I missed something that every other mother knows. Anxious and neurotic, I thought I missed something that every other mother knows.

How often do we, as mothers, give ourselves no-win situations? Guilt for saying “no”  and guilt for saying  “yes.” 

I digress. 

Be it all for your children on your own

Assuming that it’s true that there is no formula (and I can attest to it), then maybe mothering in today’s polished society requires skills that seem totally unrelated to parenting as we’ve known (or been conditioned) it to be.

After many years and three kiddos in the game, I assert that to be the best mother, the most valuable and important thing is to release the need to do and be it  all  for our children on our own.

We are  not  meant to be living in isolation.

We are designed to live in a community. We all seek community (see the explosion of users on social media platforms over the past 10-15 years).

Actively cultivate and foster community beyond yourselves

Today, being a  “good mother”  means actively cultivating and fostering a community beyond ourselves to  engage ,  inspire , and  nurture  our children in ways that we never could.

What does that look like? It may mean agreeing to share resources by providing a meal to a new mom in your circle. Maybe it means being a role model by asking for and receiving support when you need it. 

It may look like swapping childcare, attending play dates, or intentionally surrounding your family with like-minded adults to share their gifts and talents with your children.

Research unequivocally shows that teenagers who have a trusted adult to confide in outside of the family  strengthen  relationships at home.

Actively ask for help and invite others in

It may feel counter-intuitive that being a good mom means actively asking for help and inviting others in, but believe me,  “your people”  are waiting for you. 

In this day and age, you may feel like you are somehow abdicating your essential role as the primary authoritative guide in your children’s lives. 

But I encourage you to ask yourself –  “Is it so wrong to share your load with others? We all love to help others, right?”  So we need to be willing to receive help from others. Reciprocity.

How to find “your people”?

• Observe  – take notice of people who might already be in your outer community circle at school or on the sidelines at sports games.
• Seek them out  – this requires a bit of research — join local groups that interest you virtually on social media or in person.
• Attend local family-friendly events .
• Join Mom/Parenting groups  that match your parenting values and philosophy. Mommy and Me, Attachment Parenting group, etc

Breathe Mommas. You are  not  meant to do this big work alone. With a supportive circle around you, you can be more present, have more patience, and share more quality time with your children.

Emilia Moskal

Parenting Content Specialist,  HiJunior

There is nothing wrong with questioning yourself during motherhood. When you have children, it is common to feel that you’re  not  doing enough.

Offer your child your unconditional love

However, it is possible to assign certain qualities to be a good mother. All of them have one thing in common —  your child should have a chance to grow up to be happy and  not  be afraid to be themselves . 

Offering your child your unconditional love should be a priority. Many parents forget that their children are  not  their second chance to relive their life and force them to behave in a certain way or start hobbies they’re not passionate about. 

Support your child without criticizing them

Furthermore, support them without criticizing them, e.g., if your kid tries to discover new passions or change their style. Criticized children often grow up anxious perfectionists with low self-esteem. 

Be your child’s friend when they need to talk to someone, and a disciplinarian when they think of making the wrong choices. 

Encourage your children to express their feelings

Another often overlooked quality some parents forget is encouraging their children to express their feelings. Have you ever heard the sentence:  “Don’t cry like a little girl” ? 

Hearing this as a boy can be highly damaging. Holding your feelings inside and thinking you’re weak for feeling a certain way can result in a lack of ability to recognize your problems and deal with difficult situations. 

Not only that, but blocked emotions in childhood can appear in adulthood as  anxiety ,  heart disease ,  intestinal issues , and many others. 

Work on your patience and avoid yelling at your children

One of the qualities that are worth mentioning is patience. Even if your child misbehaves or can’t complete their homework — try to work on your patience and avoid yelling at them . 

This behavior causes distress and can affect your child’s ability to start over instead of getting discouraged after minor mishaps. 

Jessica Bartolini M.Ed., MSTOM

Parenting Coach | Yoga & Meditation Teacher, Wanderers

Give your children valuable life experience

I’m always thinking about what my girls are learning from this life experience and from the example of my life. 

It makes me feel like it doesn’t matter if I fail at whatever I’m doing or if the event or experience is a flop because, no matter what, my girls will get valuable life experience from it. 

Bring awareness and inspiration

Especially if I can remember to bring  awareness , presence ,  joy ,  adventure , curiosity ,  inspiration ,  fun ,  playfulness ,  creativity , and  detachment  from results to how I experience whatever it may be. 

I’m only sometimes able to bring all or, sometimes, not even any of these qualities to the moment. But that is where my practice of yoga, meditation, and journaling becomes important. I don’t live to be something for my girls. 

I live to become, through connecting mind , body , and spirit on this journey in life. And then I trust the universe to do the rest for my daughters, who are on their own unique soul paths in this life. 

I will  not  be the mom who says, I raised two lawyers and a doctor; want to know how I parented? 

I am the mom who says I have always followed my heart and intuition in life, not often taking the path well-traveled — often following the guidance of my girls’ hearts and desires as well as the bread trail of cues given by my mom, my grandparents, other guardian angels, and the universe because we are all interconnected. 

And my girls, standing in their uniqueness, are as much a part of the whole as I am standing in mine. And  I grow and learn from them as much as they do from me . 

I can’t tell you how to be a good mom, but I can only share how I live a life from the heart, often faced with uncertainty but full of adventure and without regret. I am living my life fully, and I hope my girls will do the same. 

Lisa Honig Buksbaum

Positive Psychology Thought Leader | CEO,  Soaringwords  | Author, “ SOARING into Strength: Love Transcends Pain “

It’s so curious that motherhood — the most significant role we are privileged to hold — does  not  come with an instruction manual. 

I’ve learned from being a mother of two grown sons, a daughter and granddaughter, and an honorary  “chosen”  mother and daughter to many people that we all crave a  mother’s love . 

At its best, maternal love is  abundant  and  constant . Yet, as any mother appreciates, motherhood is a dynamic, ever-changing experience. We delight in watching our children grow and change, but we are also constantly evolving. 

When our children are young, they are completely dependent on us. Everything is a new experience for the baby and the mother, which can be both exhilarating and daunting at the same time. 

We must give them space to explore and mature

As our children grow, we must flex new muscles, giving them space to explore and mature, figure things out, and make mistakes. I am reminded of the tensility of a bamboo tree, being supple to adapt to changing conditions and climate. 

Similarly, a good mother has a strong internal ballast. She knows who she is and appreciates her child for who they are and who they are growing into becoming. She does  not  need to place all her hopes and unfulfilled aspirations onto her children’s shoulders. 

Do everything to help your child be restored to health

When my oldest son was catastrophically ill, my world stopped, and I became a “mom on a mission,”  determined to do everything in my power to help him be restored to health. 

I had a calling while walking on the beach during the height of his illness when the name Soaringwords came to me. Through that profound experience, I came to realize that my life purpose was to help others who were going through a crisis. 

Since 2000, I’ve worked with thousands of parents and ill children and touched the lives of more than 500,000 people to inspire them to take active roles in their self-healing. 

Don’t overprotect your child

I learned from this experience that parents often have the inclination to smother or overprotect their child when a child is ill. Parents frequently have this impulse to determine whether their child is sick or not. 

However, this approach actually encourages their child to become more fragile ,  scared , and  rigid . 

Instead, parents who appreciate that they didn’t cause the illness, can’t cure the illness, and can’t control the illness have a better chance of being a loving and supportive caregiver and champion than dumping their maternal fears and anxieties onto a child who is already in a compromised state of well-being.

Boone Christianson, LMFT

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Lessons From Family Therapy | Author, “ 101 Therapy Talks “

It starts with the idea that no mothers are objectively better than others; all mothers are doing their best with their resources. I have worked with abusive and neglectful mothers, but none of them were  not  trying their best.

But changing your mothering practices to accomplish your goals better follows a few principles:

Get to know yourself without judgment

Avoid thinking about what you should be doing, and just think about how you are now:

• Do you dislike playing with your children? 
• Was pregnancy the worst experience of your life? 
• Would you rather be at work than at home? 
• Do you tend to sacrifice your well-being for your kids? 

Identify how things are and understand the reasons behind them. They always make sense if you really think about it.

Related: How to Get to Know Yourself Better (9 Self-Awareness Questions)

Identify the traits that you do judge yourself for

Perhaps you don’t judge other moms for letting their kids watch 8 hours of television on hard mental health days, but you shame yourself. Why? 

Identify the source of the shame

Why is what you are doing not good enough? Process these unhelpful thoughts and emotions. It is possible to develop compassion for all people, even yourself. A good therapist can help.

Once there is less shame in controlling your mothering behavior, you will be much less stressed and far more capable of doing what you want and learning more.

A short case example:  

A mother came to me saying she  hated  being at home with the kids all day and hated herself for hating it. She recognized that she became  resentful and depressed , which had negative effects on her kids. 

Her mental health improved when she started working part-time and letting her partner handle the kids more, but she felt shame about  not  being with the kids. 

Our work didn’t involve forcing her to follow the latest research on positive parenting but helping her develop acceptance of where she is at. 

This decreased her stress and helped her be more present with her kids when she was with them, which was better for them than having a mom always at home who was snippy and emotionally distant.

Related: 40+ Signs of Emotionally Unavailable Parents (+ Ways to Cope)

Elise M. Schuster

Speaker | Advocate for Foster Families | Author, “ Kokoon on a Hill “

You need to raise your children with grace

Though there are many different kinds of mothers and different ways that families raise their children, I believe after raising two birth children, fostering fifty children, and adopting nine children, I have learned through my experiences that to be a good mother, we need to raise our children with  grace . 

You need to show the child that you forgive them

All children will mess up from time to time. That is a normal fact of learning as a child. 

As a mother, we need to show the child that we forgive them for what they have done, explain that they need to learn from what they have done, and understand that they will try really hard not to do it again. 

The mom teaches  all  of this while ensuring the child knows that no matter what, they will be loved by her always. 

With all the different children that I have been blessed to have in my life, it amazes me that children are  not  as the world wants to portray them. Most children do  not  want lots of things to be bought. 

No matter the background, ethnic group, or any other differences, I have found that most children want  love  and  time  from mom (and dad). 

Being a mom is a hard job ; being a good mom means we learn to be patient, not react to situations, and always remember that we were children once. 

How did we want our mother to treat us? While giving grace to our children,  we also need to give ourselves grace . A good mother is  not  a perfect mother. We are human and make mistakes. 

We can be different from any other mother. We just need to be the mother that our child loves. 

The bond between mother and child is different for everyone, but when a child feels safe, understood, and loved, there is nothing in this world that can break that bond. #GRACE

Kara Nassour, LPC, NCC

Licensed Professional Counselor,  Shaded Bough Counseling

Ensure your children feel safe, loved, and respected

I frequently work with clients with family trauma or complex relationships with their parents. We explore their parents’ strengths and failures and what a “healthy”  relationship with one’s children looks like. 

Being a good mother is very simple. She only needs to ensure her children feel safe ,  loved , and  respected .

This is  not  to say it’s easy. You will make mistakes, and you will doubt yourself. But making mistakes is okay . 

In fact, when you make a mistake, take ownership of it, and try to repair your connection with your child. That also teaches your child to learn from their mistakes and keep trying. 

It is more important to keep reaching out and listening to your kid than to get everything right.

My adult clients who felt loved , respected , and safe around their mothers universally report  strong  relationships with them. They were much less likely to develop childhood trauma and were more emotionally stable and resilient as adults. 

They readily acknowledged that their mothers were flawed and everything wasn’t always sunshine and roses, but children will forgive their parents for so much as long as they feel  loved  and  respected .

If you are worrying about whether you’re a good mother, chances are you’re already on the path to being there.

Caroline Gebhardt, NCC, LPC, RYT

Psychotherapist,  Body-Based Psychotherapy  | Nationally Certified Counselor | Registered Yoga Teacher

Mothering oneself while mothering others

When someone wonders if they’re a good enough mother, or perhaps they’re fretting over their child’s behavior, I often invite them to explore how supported they feel. 

Literally, I ask them how connected or disconnected they feel from the chair or floor that supports their body, and this relational body-based practice opens curiosity and exploration of how much nourishment they allow themselves to receive or not! 

When our own nervous system feels adequately supported, we have an expanded capability of nurturing not only ourselves in a sustainable way but also our children and loved ones . 

The little ones intuitively sense this steady support and feed off it! This co-regulation dance happens from the one with power authority offering safety and connection to someone in their care.

However, when someone notices they are low on emotional, physical, social, and/or mental nourishment, it’s essential to offer oneself the 3Cs ( Curiosity , Compassion , and  Care ) about how to consciously re-feed oneself. 

This isn’t to blame or shame the one playing the  “mother”  role, but to recognize that even little bites of self-care (asking for help, aiming for  “good enough” instead of perfect, choosing battles, taking care of one’s own inner child) can give one the sustainable fuel to mother others while mothering oneself. 

Mark Joseph

Founder,  Parental Queries

Ensure you get enough sleep, eat right, and exercise regularly

First and foremost, remember that being a good mother starts with taking care of yourself. If you’re  not  taking care of yourself, it won’t be easy to take care of your children. Ensure you get  enough sleep ,  eat right , and  exercise regularly .

Don’t try to do everything yourself

It’s okay to ask for help from your partner or other family members when you need it. Trying to do everything on your own will only lead to burnout.

Related: How to Recover From Burnout

Make time for yourself every day

Even if it’s just a few minutes, make sure you have some time to relax and do something that you enjoy. This will help you stay sane and be a better mother overall.

Don’t be afraid to discipline your children when necessary

Children need boundaries and limits in order to thrive. By setting firm but loving limits, you’re actually helping your child learn self-control and develop into a well-adjusted individual.

Cherish the moments you have with your children

They grow up so fast! Try to take the time to connect with them daily, whether through  conversation ,  playtime , or  just spending time together doing nothing  in particular. These are the moments that you’ll treasure for a lifetime.

Michele Tripple

CEO,  Confessions of Parenting

Being a mom can be overwhelming, whether it is the first time or your 5th, and you have multiple little ones needing your attention. It is good to remember that you were created to be a mother. It is in your biological DNA. 

Tips for first-time moms:

Find a positive outlet

After giving birth, hormones are thrown out of whack for a while as your body heals and adjusts to what it just went through. Allow yourself to feel the feelings and find a positive outlet such as  journaling ,  taking a bath , singing your favorite songs , etc. 

Children are usually happiest when their mother is happy.

Be aware of postpartum depression

Echoing the fact that children are happier when their mother is happy, it is essential to be aware of Postpartum Depression and talk to your doctor about seeing a therapist if needed or any other coping strategies. 

Motherhood is a long commitment of hard work, and you need to stay healthy in all areas of life. Depression is nothing to be ashamed of. It is an illness just like strep throat is an illness that needs treatment to overcome. 

Fed is the best option

Many moms have been told  “breast is best,”  and while breast milk is natural, cheap, and healthy for your baby, there is no need to struggle to the point of being blue in the face trying to nurse a baby and find they are still hungry or end up preferring the bottle over the nipple. 

Babies need to eat, and it is more important that they get the nutrients they need to grow at the end of the day. So whether it is breast or bottle, know that baby will appreciate you for the milk you give them!

Jordyn Mastrodomenico, LCADC, LAC, CTP

Clinical Director,  ChoicePoint

Motherhood is one of the most rewarding and fulfilling experiences a woman can have, but it’s also a lot of work. You will have to be there for your child every minute of their lives, and they will depend on you emotionally as well as physically.

You bring up your child’s character and personality

The quality of a good mother brings up the children’s character, personality, and many other important factors that affect the child greatly. 

The key points of maternal education should be expressed in terms of the importance of being a good mother and convey to these women the importance of supporting their children throughout their lives.

Be creative

The first and most important quality of a mother is creativity. A mother should always seek to work on amazing new methods to have fun with her children. 

Some major examples are:

• Watching movies
• Cooking 
• Playing games

You should have your child’s prime interests at heart

A good mother should always have her child’s prime interests at heart. She should be  compassionate  towards their problems and always be there to get them help whenever they want. 

She should be fair in all that she does, whether disciplining them or praising them and always take their feelings into account.

Be supportive

As a mother, it is such an important thing to be supportive. Regardless of what type of hiccup they may be experiencing, as long as they are doing their best and showing effort to improve, that is all you should expect of them.

Never discourage your child from growing and learning

Never discourage your child from growing and learning by having to put pressure on the child to accomplish everything in their lives instantaneously. 

By doing this, you can take away the pleasure of accomplishing things for them. They might focus more on trying to please you rather than themselves, which is unhealthy for anybody involved.

Dana Spearin, O.D.

Optometric Physician, Luke Knows

Most women who have had children have wondered,  “am I a good mother?” Being a good mother will look a little different for every woman; however, there are some things that will help a mother become the best mother that she can possibly be. 

Know yourself intimately

Taking the time to get to know yourself before having kids is crucial:

• Did you want to travel before having kids? 
• Did you want to get established in your dream job? 
• Did you want to finish that degree? 

If you don’t take the time to get to know yourself, you won’t know what you wanted to do before bringing a child into this world. This may lead to resentment  toward your children or your partner. 

Knowing yourself and accomplishing what you need to achieve before having kids is essential to being a good mother.

Have a tribe

Having a strong support system or a tribe is essential for all mothers. A mother’s tribe is a group of people who come alongside her and support her. 

When she needs someone to talk to, give her advice, or is desperate for time to herself, these people will encourage her and give her an extra hand. 

Having the knowledge that you aren’t walking through motherhood alone gives women the confidence that they can do this and be the mother they want to be. 

Have the two P’s: Patience and Presence 

Being patient and present with your children is a substantial way to be a good mother. Kids want to be  known ,  heard , and  loved . They don’t need toys; they need  you . 

They need you to be available to them , and when they seek your advice, they want to know you are a safe place for them. 

This leads to  patience . Being patient and slow to anger will cultivate a safe environment for your relationship to grow, leading to a child seeking your  care ,  wisdom , and  advice  throughout their life. 

When your children come to you for counsel, you know you were and are a good mother.

In conclusion

Being a good mother will look a little different for each and every mother and, quite frankly, will be a little different for every child. 

Knowing yourself ,  having a tribe , and  being patient and present with your children will give you a strong foundation on how to be a good mother.

Dr. Brittany Noel Robles, MD, MPH, CPT

OBGYN Physician | Certified Personal Trainer, Post Partum Trainer

Provide your children with a stable and loving home

One of the most important things you can do for your children is to provide them with a stable and loving home. This means creating a warm and inviting space where your children feel safe and loved. 

There is no other place like home, so make it the best place it can be for your children.

Be emotionally present for your children

Another important aspect of being a good mother is being emotionally present for your children. 

This means:

• Being available to listen to their problems and concerns. 
• Being able to offer support and guidance when needed. 
• Being able to celebrate their successes. 
• Being involved in their lives and taking an interest in their activities.

Be a role model for your children

Finally, it is essential to set a good example for your children. This means living your life in a way that demonstrates the values you want your children to internalize. 

It also means: 

• Being honest with them.
• Treating others with respect. 
• Modeling positive behavior.

Lauren Byington

Former Public School Teacher, Girliest

Be consistent

I don’t necessarily mean with your schedule; I mean with your attitude and disposition. While we can’t always be 100 percent  “on”  and the paragon of a perfect parent, we should consistently try. 

Your kids want to come to you knowing what to expect, not wondering if you’re going to be hot or cold, grumpy or mellow. Be their rock. But, when you do mess up —  apologize .

Demonstrate how to react when you do mess up

Sincerely apologize. Even reiterate more than once that you made a mistake and state how you should have reacted. Kids won’t look at you as weak: they’ll learn that it’s important to admit mistakes and apologize for them . 

They need to see you take ownership of mistakes and self-correct, so they implement the same humble, honest behavior as they grow and grow. 

Learn to give “the warning look”

When your kiddo crosses a line or is on the verge of doing so, rather than reacting instantly with yells or behavior, you might end up regretting it. Learn to give a particular look that conveys,  “Hey, you’re walking on thin ice here.” 

I call it  The Warning Look : I cross my arms, stand up straight, and angle a certain narrowed look at my kids. 

Ninety-nine percent of the time, they instantly refine their behavior, and no escalation needs to happen. 

I used this warning-look tactic as a teacher, and it could get a room of 30 rambunctious kids to turn silent. They knew the look and cared to self-correct, quieting down. 

If I tried to yell over them, it would make me seem in competition with their noise and predominance. Taking the high road with a single look gave me, the teacher, and now the mom, the needed spotlight to start teaching.

Use the “sandwich method”

It’s natural that we need to enlighten and help correct kids’ behavior. If possible, do the  “sandwich method,”  wherein you nestle the critique between two compliments. This works well for people of all ages. 

After all, we thrive with positive reinforcement. It’s human nature to retract and want to recoil when told of our mistakes and shortcomings. People — including kids — are much more apt to listen and heed personal critique when it’s nestled between compliments. 

Here’s an example: 

“Sam, you’re so creative and artistic! Do remember to clean up your sticky slime messes, though, please. I believe you’ll remember to clean up your slime messes in the future because you’re a quick learner.”

Talk to kids about their lives and yours

Don’t underestimate the value of simple talks. Heart-to-hearts, yes, but also simple discussions about your days and feelings. Kids, like adults, want to be heard and listened to. 

Also, helping them engage in a back-and-forth, flowing, caring conversations is a lifelong skill that translates into other personal and work-related relationships as they grow older. 

They need to be  good  at conversing and expressing feelings to others constructively their entire lives. To top it off, these  “simple”  discussions can be essential in reminding them that you’re consistently there to love, care for, and hear them.

Tim McCarthy

Author, “ Raising 4 Dimensional Children in a 2 Dimensional World “

One area most mothers don’t realize is that there are 4 Dimensions to raising a child:  Physical ,  Mental ,  Emotional , and  Spiritual . 

Respond to your child’s needs

In the beginning, they focus on physical needs like  feeding ,  cleaning diapers , and  sleeping . 

However, infants also need a great deal of emotional connection to develop fully.  Responding to the baby’s needs creates a sense of security , a feeling that the mother cares and will be there to help out. 

Harvard University puts forth the  “serve and return”  concept, where the baby will serve up a request in the form of a look or a sound, and the mother needs to return with the proper response. 

Being there to see or hear the service is the first step, but then making the proper return is the second step. 

Some research says that even the best parents get the return right only about 50% of the time, but the best parents are the ones who, if they get it wrong the first time, will try something else until they eventually get it right.   

As the child grows, the same process should continue in each of the 4 Dimensions:

• If a preschooler serves up a physical need like a fever or even shoes that are too tight, the mother should return with her best effort.
• If a school-aged child serves a mental need like a failing grade on a test, the mother should respond with her best effort. 
• If a preteen serves an emotional need like freaking out over some boy who said she was fat, the mother should return with her best effort. 
• If an adolescent serves up a spiritual need like how to deal with death, the mother should return with her best effort. 

Children develop in each of the 4 Dimensions in each age group, and mothers should have the knowledge to return with the proper response.

Nicole Thelin

Founder, Low Income Relief

I always think of parenting like a bank account: you make deposits with love and good memories, and you make withdrawals with discipline and correction.

The trick is to always keep the balance in the positive so that when hard times inevitably happen, there’s a high enough balance in the account to preserve the quality of the relationship.  

Speak your children’s love language

Early on in my parenting journey, I read the Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. As someone with an Acts of Service love language, I realized I wasn’t connecting as effectively with some of my children who had distinctly different love languages. 

Now, it is part of our family tradition to complete a Five Love Languages survey every year or two. As my children have grown, their love languages have evolved. 

But by making sure I always understand how they feel most loved, I’m able to make sure that I am showing them love in a way that resonates with them.

This is an efficient way to keep those relationship balances high . 

Learn and teach emotional resilience skills

Life is hard. One thing that I feel like previous generations have really lacked is a sense of emotional resilience. Yes, people have always known how to push through hard and difficult things, but they often sustained a lot of emotional damage along the way. 

As someone with a serious anxiety disorder, I’ve had the opportunity to learn emotional resilience skills in therapy and then teach them to my children. 

I believe it’s a parent’s responsibility to break as many damaging generational cycles as possible. After all, I want my children to have a better life and be more successful than I have been. 

The tools and techniques I learned in therapy have really helped them cope with some of the difficult situations we’ve faced as a family. I also take comfort in knowing that those skills will serve them well for the rest of their lives. 

Emotional resilience skills include: 

• Self-awareness
• Breathing exercises
• Expressing gratitude often
• Practicing optimism

There are many tools out there that can help children and parents become more emotionally resilient in the face of life’s challenges. This helps minimize those withdrawals to those emotional accounts, too.

Admit your mistakes

Parents aren’t perfect, and we harm our kids when we pretend to be. In our family, we focus on progress instead of perfection. I try to model that by apologizing  quickly  and  sincerely  when I make a mistake. 

My children have picked up on that, too, and it has really helped decrease the conflict in our house. 

Julie Medeiros

Founder, Miss M Online Classes

Excitement about my first pregnancy was the beginning of a big change, which started with setting high standards around motherhood. Nine years later, I admit it was the worst decision I’ve ever made.

Live a life that is true to you

I realized that the perfect routine and the healthiest menu were only a tiny aspect of parenting. 

The lesson I’ve learned is that the most important gift I can give as a mother is living a life that is true to me, my interests, and my circumstances. 

It is about taking care of myself in the first place, nurturing my resource as a person, and sharing it with my children in the most positive way.

Remember that perfect is not the same as good

This realization came after I caught myself doing all the right things as per the recommendations of the child and maternal health nurse, picking up all the advice from mum blogs, and listening to friends’ best practice tips. 

A fresh and varied diet, regular walks outside, and developmental activities for kids were my obsession and a priority over having a cup of tea while the child had a nap.

Deep inside, I felt that this  “right doing”  was never enough, as there were always new recommendations, new ideas, and expert advice to follow. 

The fear of my child missing out on important developmental milestones was so strong that I ignored my inner callings just to be myself for a very long time.

The divorce came as a wake-up call that brought a lot of reflection and changes into my life. Today I know that my perfectionism and the need to be loved made me act the way I did. 

Accept your mistakes and forgive yourself

By accepting my mistakes and forgiving myself , I started a new journey where the focus was on understanding my purpose in life, realizing my dreams, and setting the right example for my children.

Stay authentic

I quit a well-paid corporate job to start a project I am passionate about, where I combine my teaching degree and long-standing marketing experience. 

It is such as pleasure to be able to nurture children’s curiosity about entrepreneurship, marketing, and critical thinking through everyday examples.

And while the new income is yet to match the corporate salary, I know I made the right decision because the energy level and the pleasure of doing what feels right and true for me is unbelievable. 

And my children feel that, too! We’ve noticed that the house is full of smiles , laughs , great talks , and fun ideas we all enjoy.

Lola Akingbade

Founder, Deyewa

Be present as often as you can for your kids

It is essential to be present as often as we can for our kids. The saying the days are long, but the years are short is very true. Sometimes life can get so busy, and it seems like we are rushing through every moment. 

When we are present, we can truly make connections with our kids, learn from them and share things with them. By being present, we can also teach them to live life to their fullest potential. 

Practice being present by limiting distractions and being intentional about your time with your children.

Allow them to make their own mistakes

It’s easy to be so involved in our kids’ lives that we try to limit the mistakes they make. We try to help them every step of the way, so they get things right. 

As a good mother, it’s important to allow them to make their own mistakes and learn from them. When they are able to do this, they build their resilience and also confidence in themselves to sort things out. 

Know that you are enough

Social media has a way of making us compare ourselves as mothers with others. You see another mother that keeps the home spotlessly clean or prepares meals beautifully, travels with her kids, and the list goes on. 

It’s easy to feel like you are  not  a good mother. One thing that we need to remember is that we are enough . 

Even on days when you feel like no matter how hard you try to do things perfectly, something slips through the cracks, remember that you are enough . 

Our kids do  not  need us to be perfect. They need good mothers, a mother who is there for them and committed to them, and loves them unconditionally. 

Shannon Peel

Brand Storyteller,  MarketAPeel

Have open communication without judgment

Open communication without judgment or corporal punishment, along with asking them questions to inspire empathy and understanding, was the key to my success. 

My kids got along because when they were young, I told them they were responsible for each other. 

Every time I could see them start to fight, I told them,  “You can fight, but you must hug and say I love you first — then fight all you want.”  I encouraged them to say  “I love you”  to each other. 

Stories you can use if you need something different or more. 

What I did as a mom:

Don’t get upset easily

When my son was young, he and a friend broke a window in the house. When they came to tell me, I didn’t get upset. I picked up the yellow pages (when they were still printed), and they each had to phone a window company and ask how much it would cost to fix it. 

Whenever he made a bad choice, I didn’t get upset. I asked questions, and we discussed solutions. He was responsible for fixing the problem with my support but not my stepping in. 

Today he is an independent, self-sufficient, responsible 23-year-old who has been on his own since he was 18. 

Give your children responsibilities that fit their capabilities

As my children grew up, they were given responsibilities that fit their capabilities when we ran errands, such as grocery shopping. 

First, was put the groceries on the cashier’s counter. Then as they got bigger, they had to carry the groceries in. When they got older, they had to put the groceries away. 

Then they had to use my card to pay for the groceries while I stood there. By the time my daughter was 12, she was doing the grocery shopping better than I did. 

When we’d go shopping where there were toys, we’d go look, and if they wanted something, I’d say,  “Put it on the list. What else do you want on the list?”  Then they would go to the next thing. 

They’d have a big list by the time we left but wouldn’t be upset that they didn’t get anything. They would talk about what they wanted with each other. 

My daughter would say,  “I don’t have that, Dora.”  On the list, it would go. Made shopping for birthdays, Christmas, and good behavior rewards easy. 

Jennifer Kropf

Founder and Chief Blogger,  Healthy Happy Impactful

A happy mom = a good mom

The truth is, there are thousands of ways to be a good mom: 

• You can be a better listener. 
• Be more playful. 
• Feed your kids healthy foods. 

These are all important. And we shouldn’t be against any of these.  It’s essential to grow . But if we only focus on being better, we’re missing a crucial component.  A good mom is a happy mom  — both in motherhood and her life in the outside world. 

She’s taking care of herself as well as her kids. And she’s letting things go for the sake of her mental health.

In a world that’s obsessed with being better, too many moms live in the burnout lane. These women take care of their  kids ,  partners ,  coworkers , and  friends  and often do much more work than they can handle. 

They want to do it all and be it all for everyone . In fact, they feel lazy if they’re not.

But it’s never enough.

Inside they’re slowly dying, ignoring their own needs for  quiet ,  friendship , or  fun .

Know that your worth is not determined by how much you get done

A good mom knows that her worth is  not  determined by how much she gets done. She’s productive but also rests, knowing that rest is  not  the enemy. 

She makes time for  good books ,  inside jokes with friends , and  long walks in nature , noticing the crunch of the leaves under her feet.

Give more hugs and smiles to your kids

And then, because she’s taking care of herself, she can give more hugs and smiles to her kids. She feels  more  patient with them. And she’s also modeling what health and happiness look like to them. So they will grow up knowing to listen to their own needs as adults.

It’s a beautiful cycle that supports both kids and moms. And perhaps most important,  it reminds moms that a good mom is not a supermom . It’s simply a woman who’s loving, grateful, healthy, and well-rested.

Heather Behrends

Founder, Made in a Pinch

A good mother makes the time 

Most mothers provide their kids with the basics:  shelter , food ,  clothing , love , affection ,  guidance , etc. 

However, in today’s busy-as-a-bee society, moms are stretched thin — maybe thinner than ever between work, raising kids, managing a home, and trying to be everything to everyone. 

What makes a good mom is an effort to make time. And while that may sound like  “one more thing”  on the to-do list, it’s really not as hard (or takes as long) as it may sound. 

Make time to get in touch with every family member

Make time to get in touch with every family member and connect with them every day. Ask them how they’re doing and listen. Make time to offer guidance and support or dig deeper when needed.  Make time to make memories . 

As long as the physical and emotional health and safety of the family are prioritized, everything else will fall into place — the chores, the schools, the sports, etc. 

And in the end, when you look back on being a mom (or being raised by a mom), the things that stand out are those snippets of time — not whether the dishes or the laundry were always done.

Dagna Bieda

Entrepreneur | Founder, theMindfulDev.com

Make sure that you have time to take care of yourself

Being a good mother meant understanding myself better (through therapy) and making sure that during the week, I had the time to care for myself. As a result, I have the capacity to show up and care for others wholeheartedly. 

Becoming a mother was a wonderful but emotionally triggering experience.

My first two kids are just 1.5 years apart, and while pregnant with the second one, I felt incredibly overwhelmed while also feeling burnout at my Engineering job, and that’s when I finally decided to reach out for professional help. 

Part of the overwhelm was that I was used to taking care of everybody else first and making time for myself at the end. That was before I had kids. 

After I had them, I had no more energy or time left in my day. And so, initially, I was almost always  tired ,  easily triggered , and  stressed out . But that wasn’t the kind of person I wanted to be. 

The talk therapy based on Dr. Russ Harris’s ACT was extremely powerful and helped me get unstuck, and out of the rut I was in.

Just hearing the names and labels of what I was dealing with:

• Complicated grief
• Past codependent relationships
• Narcissistic caregivers
• Postpartum depression
• Super-woman complex

Knowing what these were called was very empowering cause I was able to educate myself on my issues, process them, and let go of my traumas, and thus rewire my thinking without needing any meds.

I now use what I’ve learned in therapy  not  only in caring for my husband and children but also use that knowledge in my coaching business, in which I help Engineers find more fulfillment in their lives through their careers.

I know I’m a good mom cause I put the work into getting there and becoming the kind of mom I wanted to be.

Kathleen Fletcher

CEO,  Kitty Baby Love

Keep your children active and creative

I’ve found the most important in being a mother to three children: keeping them active  and  creative . 

When I had my first child, I was completely exhausted and got into bad routines of staying all day indoors and giving my kids unengaging activities to do, like watching TV. 

Over time, I picked myself and decided to make more of an effort to give them creative activities like arts and crafts to nurture their brains and stimulate their mental development. 

The same goes for physical activities, too. I signed all my kids up for sports teams when they were young. If they didn’t enjoy the sport, I never forced them to take part, but I encouraged them to try something else active instead. 

I feel like these steps had a massive impact on their overall development from birth.

Frequently Asked Questions

What are the qualities of a good mother.

A good mother typically displays the following qualities:

• Nurturing : A good mother provides a loving, caring, and safe environment for her children to grow and develop.

• Patience : She exhibits patience when dealing with the challenges that come with raising children, understanding that they are learning and growing at their own pace.

• Empathy : A good mother is empathetic, trying to understand her children’s feelings and experiences, which helps her to respond appropriately to their needs.

• Resilience : She remains strong and resilient during difficult times, providing support and encouragement for her children.

• Adaptability : A good mother is able to adapt to the ever-changing needs of her children as they grow and develop.

• Love and support : She provides unconditional love and support, helping her children to feel secure and confident in their abilities.

• Communication : A good mother communicates effectively with her children, actively listening to their concerns and expressing herself clearly.

• Boundaries and discipline : She sets appropriate boundaries and enforces them consistently, helping her children to learn respect and self-control.

• Fostering independence : A good mother encourages her children to become independent and self-sufficient, teaching them essential life skills.

• Positive role model : She serves as a positive role model, demonstrating good values, morals, and behavior for her children to emulate.

These qualities contribute to a strong, healthy parent-child relationship and help to create well-adjusted, confident individuals.

How do I control my anger towards my child?

Managing anger towards your child is essential for maintaining a healthy parent-child relationship. To control your anger, start by recognizing the triggers and considering proactive solutions to address them. When you feel anger building, take a break by stepping away from the situation, taking deep breaths, or engaging in a brief calming activity.

Additionally, incorporate relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, and progressive muscle relaxation into your daily routine to help manage stress and anger more effectively.

To improve communication, express your feelings calmly and assertively, and make an effort to listen to your child’s perspective. Furthermore, seek support from friends, family, or a counselor to gain valuable insights and coping strategies. Set clear and consistent boundaries for your child’s behavior to prevent misunderstandings and reduce potential conflicts.

Also, develop empathy by trying to understand the situation from your child’s perspective and focus on finding constructive solutions to problems instead of getting angry. Regular physical activity can also help release tension and reduce stress, which may contribute to anger.

If your anger is negatively impacting your relationship with your child, or if you struggle to manage it despite trying these strategies, consider seeking help from a mental health professional.

Remember, feeling angry or frustrated is normal, but learning to manage these emotions through various strategies and techniques is crucial for maintaining a positive and healthy parent-child relationship.

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Have you ever wanted to convey the depth of your feelings and appreciation for your mother through words, but felt unsure about how to do it effectively?

Crafting a descriptive essay about your mother can be a challenging task. You want to capture her essence, the love she's given you, and the incredible person she is. 

But how do you put all those emotions into words that truly do her justice?

In this blog, we'll provide you with a step-by-step guide on how to write a heartwarming and meaningful descriptive essay about your mother. 

We’ll also provide essay examples to assist you in crafting an enhanced paper, complemented by valuable tips and guidance.

Let’s get started.

• 1. Descriptive Essay - What You Need to Know
• 2. How to Write a Descriptive Essay About My Mother - 8 Easy Steps
• 3. Examples of Descriptive Essay About My Mother
• 4. Tips to Write a Descriptive Essay About Mother

Descriptive Essay - What You Need to Know

A descriptive essay is a type of essay that uses words to describe an object, person, experience, or place. The purpose of writing this type of essay is to provide the reader with a vivid and clear description of something. The writer must use sensory details, such as sight, hearing, smell, touch, and taste to make the reader experience the topic.

When writing about a person such as your mother, you need to describe the characteristics that make her unique. It can include personality traits or experiences that make her special.

Reading a few essay samples will help you out! So read on to find good examples and tips.

How to Write a Descriptive Essay About My Mother - 8 Easy Steps

Writing a heartfelt and vivid descriptive essay about your mother requires careful consideration. 

Here, we'll guide you through the process step by step, helping you express your feelings and admiration effectively:

Step 1: Choose a Focus

Decide on a specific aspect or trait of your mother that you want to describe. It could be her appearance, personality, nurturing qualities, or a particular event that showcases her character.

Step 2: Brainstorm Descriptive Words

Make a list of adjectives and descriptive words that come to mind when you think about your mother. Try to capture the essence of her being.

Step 3: Create an Outline

Organize your thoughts by creating a descriptive essay outline . Decide on the structure, such as the introduction, body, and conclusion, and what aspects you'll cover in each section.

Step 4: Start with a Hook

Begin your essay with an engaging hook or an anecdote that draws the reader in. It can be a personal memory or a captivating description of your mother.

Step 5: Descriptive Details

In the body of your essay, use sensory details to paint a vivid picture. Describe her appearance, mannerisms, and the emotions she evokes. Incorporate the descriptive words from your brainstorming list.

Step 6: Emotions and Memories

Share your personal emotions and memories associated with your mother. How does she make you feel, and what experiences have shaped your relationship with her?

Step 7: Use Metaphors and Similes

Employ metaphors and similes to enhance your descriptions. Compare her to elements from nature, objects, or anything that can add depth to your portrayal.

Step 8: Show, Don't Tell

Instead of simply stating qualities, show them through actions, interactions, and specific examples. Let the reader experience her through your words.

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Examples of Descriptive Essay About My Mother

Exploring essay examples can provide valuable insights for crafting an essay that deeply connects with your readers. 

Below, you'll find both a descriptive essay about my mother and an analysis of its content.

Why This Descriptive Essay Works

Here are several reasons why this descriptive essay is effective:

• Emotional Connection

The essay immediately establishes an emotional connection with the reader through its theme of a mother's love. The use of descriptive language and personal anecdotes invites the reader to empathize and relate to the feelings and experiences described.

• Vivid Imagery

The essay employs vivid imagery to paint a clear picture of the mother and her attributes. The descriptions of her eyes, hands, voice, and smile create a sensory experience for the reader, making them feel as if they are present with the author.

The essay uses symbolism effectively to convey the depth of the mother's love. The mother's eyes, for example, symbolize her wisdom and the shared experiences with the author. The use of the mother's hands as a source of healing symbolizes her nurturing and caring nature.

• Structure and Flow

The essay is well-structured and flows seamlessly from one descriptive element to another. 

It begins with a general introduction, moves into specific descriptions, and ends with a strong, heartfelt conclusion. This organization keeps the reader engaged and ensures a logical progression of ideas.

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• Emotional Impact

The essay's emotional impact is profound. It not only describes the mother's physical attributes but also delves into the intangible qualities that make her special. The reader is left with a deep sense of appreciation for the role of a mother and the love she provides.

• Relatability

The essay's theme of maternal love is universal, making it relatable to a broad audience. Most readers can connect with the feelings of love, protection, and guidance that the author describes. 

If you still find it challenging to write a descriptive essay, consider these additional examples for guidance.

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Tips to Write a Descriptive Essay About Mother

Now that you’ve read the examples, let’s look at some tips that will lead you to essay writing success.

• Start with the Basics

Begin by brainstorming ideas of what makes your mother special and why she is important to you. Think about her personality traits, accomplishments, quirks, and unique qualities. In addition, consider the ways that your mother has influenced you and shaped your life.

You can also practice your writing skills with other descriptive essay topics . So write away!

• Create an Outline

Once you have all of your ideas written down, create an descriptive essay outline that will guide the structure of your essay. This should include sections for your introduction, body paragraphs, and conclusion.

• Capture Her Essence

Use vivid language to capture the essence of who your mother is. Utilize descriptive words and phrases that will help your reader understand who your mother is and what she means to you.

• Show, Don’t Tell

Instead of simply telling the reader about your mother’s traits or accomplishments, use stories and examples to illustrate them. This will make your essay more interesting to readers.

• Keep Your Tone Consistent

Maintaining a consistent tone throughout ensures a cohesive narrative without feeling disjointed or scattered. This keeps readers interested until they reach their conclusion!

• Don’t Forget the Conclusion

Summarize the main points of your essay in your conclusion and provide a call to action for readers. Maybe you’ll leave them feeling inspired or motivated to do something special for their own mother.

• Revise & Edit Diligently

Revision is key when putting together any written piece. Read over your work multiple times and fix any errors in spelling, grammar, punctuation, etc. Also improve any awkward phrasing or unclear ideas that might not be conveyed effectively enough.

To sum it up,

Writing a descriptive essay about your mother doesn't have to be difficult. With our guide and examples, you can easily write an effective essay that will make your mother proud! So get started today, and create the perfect essay for her!

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This article was co-authored by Wits End Parenting and by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden . Wits End Parenting is a parent-coaching practice based in Berkeley, California specializing in strong-willed, “spirited” children with impulsivity, emotional volatility, difficulty “listening,” defiance, and aggression. Wits End Parenting's counselors incorporate positive discipline that is tailored to each child’s temperament while also providing long-term results, freeing parents from the need to continually re-invent their discipline strategies. There are 8 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page. wikiHow marks an article as reader-approved once it receives enough positive feedback. In this case, 81% of readers who voted found the article helpful, earning it our reader-approved status. This article has been viewed 930,586 times.

The definition of a good mother varies depending on who you ask. However, most people agree that the most important thing is to love your children and make sure they feel loved . There aren’t any set rules for how to be a mom, but there are some guidelines you can use to parent your children in a loving way.

Here are 13 ways you can be a more supportive, loving mother.

Show affection often.

• Make sure most of the interactions you have with your children are positive and loving. Strive to show affection daily.
• If you have a baby, affection may simply involve holding your infant regularly or speaking reassuringly.

Spend time with your kids one-on-one.

• If you're dealing with a baby or toddler, one-on-one time might include getting down on the floor and playing with them.
• For an older child, try doing a hobby with them, like baking, hiking, or doing arts and crafts .

Show your support.

• If your teenager has joined a band, give some positive feedback about the songs they write.
• If your preteen is obsessed with space, buy them books or take them on a trip to the planetarium.

Love your children unconditionally.

• Try to avoid criticizing or blaming your child for their mistakes. Instead, focus on what they can do better next time.

Set clear, firm rules.

• Make rules clear and concise but with a positive spin, like “Everyone should walk indoors” instead of “No running in the house!”
• Depending on the age of your children, you might have an open discussion with them to decide on fair rules and consequences together. You might start trying to do this once your child is able to work out for themselves some consequences to misbehavior.

Follow through with consequences.

• Disciplining your children for rule-breaking doesn’t necessarily translate to being mean. Criticize the behavior rather than the child. This might sound like, “Isaiah, what should you do instead of pushing Charlie? Because you pushed, you’ll have to wait 5 more minutes before taking a turn to show how patient you can be.”
• Make sure the consequences feel logical. For example, if your child watches too much TV and didn’t finish their homework, consider limiting their screen time.

Try to practice what you preach.

• This also includes modeling things like being a hard worker and not using drugs or alcohol.

Admit when you were wrong.

• For instance, if you accidentally compare one kid to another, acknowledge that it was wrong by saying, “Jeff, I want to apologize to you. I compared you to your brother yesterday and I shouldn’t have. Each of you is special with your own qualities. Will you please forgive me?”

Split responsibilities with your co-parent.

• This might sound like, "Sweetie, I haven't slept well in days. Do you mind putting the kids to bed tonight so I can turn in early?"
• If you don’t have a co-parent, that’s okay. Try to lean on your support system, like a good friend or family member, for help.

Model healthy relationships.

• Use teachable moments when you and your spouse disagree (on lighter matters) to show your kids how to work through conflicts.

Moshe Ratson, MFT, PCC

Treat your kids with kindness, no matter what. Talk things through with them like you would with any other adult to show them that you value them, too. Reciprocate what you want them to put out into the world—be a role model.

Take time for yourself.

• Being stressed out affects your children, so carve out time for self-care daily. This might be unwinding with a long soak and a book each evening, or enjoying a quiet cup of coffee before the kids rise every morning. Just remember to take care of you!
• Don't be afraid to tell your children that you're taking some time to yourself. Explain self-care to them and ask them what they do for self-care. This will build a healthy habit in your children.

Try deep-breathing in times of stress.

• Meditation and yoga can also help you lower your stress levels throughout the day.

Lean on your support group.

• Meet the moms of your kids’ friends at school, at church, or on the playground to make new friends.
• It’s equally important to connect with others as a human being, not only as a mom! Hang out with friends, go on dates, and cherish your familial relationships, too.

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• Prioritize your mental health with counseling or self-care. Children need whole, healthy parents. Don't compare yourself unfairly or dwell on past mistakes — simply focus on personal growth so you can nurture theirs.
• Schedule regular bonding nights tailored to each child's interests, like crafts, sports or baking. These special memories mean more than material gifts. And don't overlook spending one-on-one time with each child.
• Let natural consequences do the teaching if kids shirk responsibilities. Nagging often backfires. If a child leaves homework undone to watch TV, receiving a poor grade may motivate better choices down the road.
• Before assigning new chores, consider their current workload — school, activities, jobs. Overburdening risks resentment. Fairness matters tremendously to kids. Lighten their load if it seems excessive.
• Listen more than you speak. Ask about their views instead of imposing yours. Shared dialogue builds mutual understanding and respect. This cement the foundation of your lifelong bond.
• Laugh with your kids, not at them. Mistakes happen to everyone, but ridicule hurts deeply and strains trust. React gently and transform failures into lessons learned instead.

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• ↑ Lisa Greaves Taylor, CCCE, LCCE, CD (DONA). Certified Doula & Childbirth Educator. Expert Interview. 25 August 2020.
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To be a good mother, try to set clear, firm rules and be consistent with your consequences. For example, if your child pushes their sibling, give them the same punishment every time, like 5 minute time-out, so they know learn that breaking rules is a bad thing. Besides teaching good behavior, you can be a good mother by showing your love and support! You can ask your kids about their interests to show you care. Additionally, make sure to attend their games and performances, which will show your kids how proud you are. To learn how to split responsibilities with your partner to give yourself time to recharge, read more from our Counselor co-author! Did this summary help you? Yes No

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Got a bit lost by trying to find out how to write an essay “the person I admire is my mother”?

Let’s start off with an obvious setting. Your mom is the most important person in your life but writing a good descriptive paper, where you explain what kind of person she is and why she is special, may be more than challenging.

Although you have to talk about your personal experience and feelings, you should also appeal to your audience’s senses and evoke emotions.

That is not easy.

We are about to provide you with all the necessary information, that would help you create an interesting, thought-provoking essay on mother, impress your teacher and classmates, and get a high grade.

What is a descriptive essay?

Let’s start with a simple definition.

Descriptive essay is a piece of writing where you describe something in a highly detailed manner, using sensory information and colourful words.

It can be an object, place, thing, experience, situation, or a person. It’s an artistic writing form, often poetic in nature. The purpose of this type of writing is to reveal the meaning of a subject, using sensory observation.

Actually, you have to create a detailed picture for readers with specific vivid words and evoke a strong sense of familiarity and appreciation. Your task is to describe something in a way the audience could see, hear or feel whatever you are talking about.

You can do it, utilizing illustrative language and including a lot of sensory details. It’s not enough to provide readers with several random facts; you should express your own feelings and appeal to your audience’s senses and emotions.

There are certain useful techniques you should follow if you plan to achieve these goals. But before we start discussing how to write a descriptive essay about a person, let’s talk about specific features of descriptive writing when it comes to creating an impressive paper on mother.

Specifics of essay on mother

In a strong paper on mother, you actually need to describe a person you love and it’s important to ensure that this description is sensory-based.

You should utilize the most specific concepts to help readers see your mother and understand what feelings she invokes in you.

You should show rather than tell readers what your mom is like and what kind of person she is.

Remember: when you just tell something, your words can be interpreted in a variety of ways, as words are vague. But when showing the picture via describing specific details, you create a vivid, real picture.

What are the qualities of a good mother essay? Let’s see.

• The text is clear and concise;
• It presents colourful images and appeals to the readers’ imagination;
• The key to a perfect descriptive essay about my mother is painting a picture in your readers’ mind by engaging all five senses – sight, smell, sound, taste, and touch.

How to write a descriptive essay about a person?

Descriptive writing has a unique power and appeal. Its main goal is to create a dominant impression.

If we analyze any good descriptive essay sample about a person, we will see that it’s a sensory description, that helps create a certain mood or atmosphere in a paper. Utilizing sensory details, you will be able to recreate the picture that you have in your mind for all readers.

Here are some effective techniques you should apply to make your descriptions more impressive. You can apply them to the other essay types and get an interesting and memorable result.

• Use sensory-packed language instead of vague general words.
• Figurative language such as similes, metaphors, comparison, contrasts, and analogies can help you make descriptions more lively and paint a picture in your reader’s mind.
• Use  precise language like strong action verbs, specific nouns, and adjectives to give life to this great picture. Appropriate nouns and verbs help deliver a strong emotional impact on any audience.
• Keep thoughts organized . Use any order you think is appropriate, like due to importance, spatial order (location) or chronological order (time). Each would be good for a descriptive paper.

How to start a descriptive essay about a person?

You may begin with the description of the physical appearance. Proceed with the explanation of how the person feels, thinks, and acts. Don’t forget about the interests, hobbies, and talents.

Remember that clear, logical, and well-balanced structure is the key to success of high-school writing or a college paper.

Although a descriptive paper relies on emotional appeal and allows students to be more creative than other types of high-school projects, you should brainstorm a lot of different ideas and create a basic outline to put ideas in the logical order.

The outline should include an intro with a thesis statement, the main body, and a conclusion.

In the main body, you should focus on the specific qualities of the person you describe.

Think of several ideas to support the main topic idea and use at least 3 other ideas to support topic in each paragraph.

You should do your best to make the content as appealing as possible, and leave your audience (not acquainted with your mom) with a strong feeling that they have actually met her and have built an emotional connection.

General recommendations for an essay about mom

• When writing an essay about mom, you need to describe a real person so you should think about your mother’s life and background.
• Before you start writing, think about the purpose of the whole paper. Decide what overall impression you want to convey. Create your general point, your unique thesis statement. Organize the entire paper around it.
• You can start with an interesting relevant quote or provide a short funny story about your mother in the introduction to grab readers’ attention. You can also present a variety of reasons, explaining why you want to describe your mother .
• Another great way to make a descriptive paper more engaging is to include a short dialogue .
• In conclusion, you should present the main ideas of your description and emphasize their significance.
• When you describe your mom’s appearance, don’t use a list-like approach. The task is not to describe everything from the top of her head down to her toes. Speak of particular aspects of your mother’s appearance, instead. That can help reveal her unique personality.
• Don’t describe the full picture. Create an engaging description that will encourage your readers’ imagination .
• Don’t use the same subject-verb pattern in all sentences because it will make your tone rather monotonous. Embed descriptive details and combine different sentences, instead. Utilize subjective clauses and compound sentences to express thoughts .
• Don’t use too many adjectives when describing your mother’s appearance or character. Include only the most powerful words .
• Avoid using clichés because they signal a lack of imagination. Be creative and use a dictionary to find vivid descriptive words.
• Don’t use too many adverbs, they make any writing weak. It’s better to use specific verbs to describe actions . They make writing more powerful.
• Use different transition words to connect all ideas and make the description of your mother logical .
• When you finish your first draft, focus on improving your descriptions . Add some sensory details to make your paper appeal to readers’ emotions.
• When you are satisfied with the content, proofread the final draft . Fix minor grammar mistakes, punctuation, spelling errors, and typos.

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There is no one right way to be a good parent, although there are many proven ways to be a flawed one, such as abuse, neglect, or overindulgence. A key challenge is resisting the urge to manage, guide, or control kids at all times, but research suggests that parents who give their children room to explore, grow, and, importantly, fail, may be serving them better. No parent should allow kids to put their health or safety at risk, or to allow core house rules to be flouted, especially when it comes to daily home and school responsibilities. But beyond that, building a home life that provides caring, consistency, choices, and consequences should go a long way toward a child’s social, emotional, and intellectual development—which should also lead to a stronger parent-child bond and happier child-raising years for everyone involved.

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A paradox of parenting is that kids typically need less from their mothers and fathers than the adults realize. What they need, though, is essential: Love, emotional security, conversation, validation, responsibilities, time outside, and opportunities to play and learn. Parents who can focus their attention on these baseline goals and avoid getting caught up in the minutiae of measuring minutes on screens or dictating which shirt gets worn to preschool, will find that they and their children will enjoy each other more , and that their kids will more quickly become comfortable with their own selves.

Daily routines, and regular rituals, can be a powerful way to bond with children and help them feel emotionally secure. Time spent each day reading together, listening to music, going outside, performing a simple chore, and especially a positive interaction to start the day and open time at bedtime to review the day and say goodnight, research finds, helps kids establish a stable, positive emotional outlook.

Research on the casual chitchat also known as banter has found that it is essential for children’s emotional development, and for their vocabulary. Informal talks with parents expand kids’ knowledge and skills, and has positive emotional and social effects that last into adulthood. Weekend plans, neighborhood news, funny memories, seasonal changes, to-do lists, dream recollections, and things that excite you are all valid topics for banter during quiet portions of the day.

There are reasons why younger kids don’t always cooperate with a parent’s requests, even if the parent doesn’t immediately recognize them as good reasons. A child deeply engaged with play, for example, may resist being called away to get dressed or come to dinner. To avoid conflict, a parent should observe what a child is involved in before demanding that they move away from it. It’s often helpful to talk to a child about what they’re doing, and even join them for a time, before requesting that they move on to a necessary task. Just five minutes of such “sensitive caregiving” can not only avoid resistance but help a child become better able to develop social competence.

Research suggests that it will. Many studies have found that dog ownership helps younger kids learn responsibility and empathy, and potentially even develop language skills. Recent research has also found that kids who live with a pet become less likely to have conduct problems or peer conflicts, with behavioral improvement averaging around 30 percent. The effect emerged simply by having a dog present in the home, and the results were even more striking when children were actively involved in walking and caring for the pet—although having a pet did not necessarily diminish the symptoms of clinically diagnosed emotional conditions.

In many cities and states, local laws prohibit children under a certain age from either staying home alone or being outside without an adult present. Many parents have protested such rules, arguing that kids entering the tween years should be allowed to be on their own if mothers and fathers determine that they’re responsible. This movement, often called free-range parenting , makes the case for overturning such laws to bring families more freedom, independence, trust, and joy, but while some municipalities have moved to amend their laws, many others have resisted.

It’s impossible for a parent to be perfect. Fortunately, it’s not that hard to be the right parent for your own child. Listening, being supportive, encouraging activity and creativity, and establishing a secure family structure all go a long way toward providing the kind of childhood that help kids thrive. Unfortunately, even in the pursuit of these goals, parents can go too far by overscheduling kids, micromanaging them, refusing to recognize learning or emotional struggles for what they are, modeling unhealthy responses to stress, violating boundaries, or criticizing kids or comparing them to others—even siblings—out of frustration.

In a word, no, and no child can be perfect, either. But parents who believe perfection is attainable, in themselves or their kids, often struggle to take any joy in their role, or to provide joy to their children. It’s easy for a parent to become self-critical and beat themselves up over opportunities they didn’t offer their kids, or for not pushing them hard enough. But an intense, overscheduled childhood may not be the right one for your child. Being a “good enough” parent , many experts suggest, is sufficient to raise children who are decent and loving, confident enough to pursue their interests, and able to fail.

It shouldn’t be. Many parents believe they should control children at all times, directing them to fit their own vision of what type of person they should become. Such parents may be shocked and angered when children resist such pushing, leading to power struggles and potentially years of conflict. Parents who instead focus on baseline expectations and standards for responsibility and routines, and stick to them, while working to understand their children’s temperament and emotional needs, can form a connection with their kids and work with them to discover and pursue their own interests.

In many families, one parent emerges as the “fun one,” or the “good cop,” with the other wedged into the role of the serious one, or the “bad cop.” Not only does this generate a potentially unhealthy family dynamic, it can also strain a couple’s relationship. Partners who discuss their values, and each other’s priorities as parents, can face their children with more confidence, divide responsibilities more evenly, and approach children with consistency.

It can be tricky for parents of young children to recognize when a child is acting out and when there is a valid reason for what appears to be unwelcome behavior. For example, a child may become overstimulated or feel rushed during a busy day; become angry because they’re hungry; struggle to express “big feelings”; react to a long period of physical inactivity with high energy and a need to play; or become frustrated by a parent’s inconsistent limits. Taking a step back to evaluate whether a child’s behavior may be caused by a factor outside their direct control can go a long way toward keeping parents from punishing children who may not deserve it.

Ideally, a responsible one. Surveys suggest that well over 90 percent of children have an online presence by age 2—often their own Instagram or Facebook accounts (created and maintained by their parents). “ Sharenting ,” or sharing news or images of a child, can provide parents with social validation and the support of an online community. But as kids enter the tween and teen years they may push back and feel exposed or embarrassed by what their parents have posted, leading to family conflict. Parents should understand the privacy settings of all their social media platforms, consider whether a particular photo may eventually embarrass a child and as kids get older, ask for their approval before sharing anything online.

When a parent is anxious or worried, a child may become anxious as well. Parents who talk about adult worries with kids, fail to model or teach coping skills, or who are unreliable or fail to keep promises, can drive anxiety in their sons and daughters. But parents who swoop in to eliminate any source of anxiety, by, for example, taking over difficult tasks, can also inadvertently raise kids who may struggle to cope with challenges or stress. Parents who make time to listen, take children’s concerns seriously, provide consistent support, step back and let kids solve problems on their own (or not), and allow ample free time for play, can help children thrive.

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Children may feel anxious in a variety of situations—at the doctor’s office, at a birthday party, before a test, or in a storm—and look to parents for help. Unfortunately, simply telling them to “calm down” likely will not work. But encouraging them to calm themselves by taking slow, deep breaths, chewing gum or singing, talking openly about their worries and naming them, or finding humor in the situation can help them get through it and be better prepared to handle future stressors.

When kids are feeling stress, parents can easily become anxious as well, but mothers and fathers should aim to avoid displaying it, or “ mood matching ,” which may only amplify a child’s stress. Keeping calm and grounded, perhaps through the application of mindfulness techniques, can help parents remain a source of support even in difficult moments.

Younger children feel emotions deeply, but their emotions may also change quickly, sometimes shocking parents and making them feel helpless. A child may have a limited ability to control their emotions, but a parent can help them develop the competence they need to manage their feelings themselves, and gain confidence and self-esteem in the process. An important step is to help children identify and talk about negative emotions like sadness or anger and not deny or suppress them.

Highly sensitive children may struggle with their feelings more than other kids, become more easily overwhelmed, or take setbacks more personally. Parents who can successfully manage their own emotions can help a sensitive child by creating a calm environment at home, maybe in one specific place; focusing on the child’s strengths while accepting their struggles as part of the mix; and working with the child to recognize their triggers and the most effective ways to respond.

Too often, children who are depressed don’t tell their parents about it; two out of three parents admit that they worry they wouldn’t recognize depression in a child , and clinicians find that children often report having symptoms for two to three years before they get help. Many kids avoid talking about depression at home because they think a parent won’t listen, will just tell them it’s temporary, or try to fix it quickly like a boo-boo. Other kids keep quiet because they want to protect their parents’ feelings. Creating a home where difficult feelings can be talked about and respected is an important step toward children feeling comfortable enough to speak about anything, including depression.

The idea of bringing a child to a psychologist is scary for many parents, but they should not see it as a personal failure but an active and positive step toward helping their child get the help they need. And as the experts on their family, parents should work to find someone they believe their child (and themselves) will be comfortable with. Parents should ask potential providers about their typical approach, how closely they involve parents in therapy, how to talk about it with their child, and how soon they should expect improvement.

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1. unconditional love and support, 2. active listening, 3. setting clear boundaries, 4. leading by example, 5. encouraging independence, 6. quality time and engagement, 7. encourage learning and curiosity, 8. discipline with compassion, 9. adapt to your child's needs, 10. seek support and guidance.

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How to Write an Essay About My Mother

Writing an essay is one of the most challenging tasks that a student might get. It is essential to learn how to write different types of essays to perform well in assignments. Students are commonly asked to write an essay to their mothers in their school lives.

What is a Mother Essay

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Short Example Of A College Essay About My Mother

A mother essay is something that every student writes once in their lifetime. This essay must contain all the qualities of your mother. It must give the reader an idea of how much you value your mom and how she impacted your life. You can write about her hobbies and her daily routine. Mother essays are normally very personal. They contain information about what the writer feels about her mom. Some students also discuss past experiences and events that were related to their mothers. This makes them more expressive as they can relate to the event that happened.

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Writing an essay about your mother will help you unleash your creative writing side. Since most people are very close to their moms, they won’t have any problem crafting something from memory. A good mother essay is the easiest kind of essay because it does not require any research from the internet. You can write it from past experiences and memory. Teachers usually require mother essays because they want to check if students have developed the perfect writing skills to help them in real-life communications.

Finding the perfect mother topic for your essay is a challenging task. Here are 15 of the best mother essay topics that might help you create the perfect essay to ease this hassle.

• One day in the life of my mother
• Essay about your mother
• The motherhood and its perks
• I love my mom
• Missing my mom even if she leaves for one hour
• Attachments with mothers
• Things my mom loves to do when she is around
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• Contributions of a mother towards her family

Outline Writing

Before starting the essay, it is very important to construct the perfect outline. Make the perfect plan and execute it smoothly. You can note down all your points on a piece of paper not to run out of ideas during the writing. Make sure that your outline covers all the points. An essay is normally divided into three parts. It contains the introduction, the main body, and the conclusion. Each of these parts has its importance.

An outline will give your essay a perfect shape. It will help improve the clarity of your essay and will it one of a kind.

Tips Concerning Writing An Introduction

Body paragraphs, also known as the main body, are the heart of the essay. These paragraphs are long, and each part explains one point in the essay. The main body must be free of all errors, and the vocabulary must be on point. Try to give one point to one paragraph so that the reader might easily navigate around the essay. Take each memory of your mother and write it in one paragraph. This will get you the perfect essay.

Body Paragraphs must not be that much longer. This is because a long paragraph might be boring for the reader, and he might lose attention after a while. Try to use transition words to connect all the paragraphs so that the document flows well.

How To Write a Conclusion in A Mother Essay

A mother essay conclusion must also be 10% of the entire document. Never add any new piece of information in the conclusion. The conclusion is supposed to reignite the thesis statement and not include new facts. Try to keep the conclusion short and leave the essay with good remarks.

Think of the conclusion as a summary of your essay. Try to squeeze in all the points in a few lines to make the last paragraph memorable.

Essay Revision

Give your essay a long and good read. Make sure to identify all the mistakes in the writing. Essay revision is very important because you never know the points that you missed. Doing a thorough revision will help your essay become perfect in every way.

Essay Proofreading

Even if you are an experienced writer, proofreading is very important. You can identify the grammar and vocabulary mistakes in the document to make amendments. Most people are prone to make silly mistakes, and since they don’t proofread, the entire essay suffers. Ask your friend to read the entire essay so that you might have a fresh set of eyes on the document to identify mistakes.

Make Citations

Adding references will make your essay look more authentic than the rest. Adding citations won’t be appropriate in a mother’s essay, but make sure you add them anyway. It looks professional, and the professor might be impressed.

My Mother Essay

Some people in our lives have the most impact on our personality. My mother has been the source of my happiness and clarity since I was very small. Words can’t even begin to describe what she meant to me. When I was born, I couldn’t speak, but she understood my every word and reacted accordingly. The most important person in my life is my mother because she has always been there for me in all my life ventures. She helped shape the man I am today.

I was a very spontaneous kid. My mother made sure that I knew that I had her full support in every phase of life. When I was 13 years old, I wanted to play the guitar and become a musician. No matter how unprofessional my dream was, she made sure that she was by my side. She was the first to lend me money when I started my start-up, and even though it failed, she never said one negative thing to me. And the best part is that she cares for everyone in our family with the same amount of love. When our dogs get sick, she spends hours looking after them and takes them to the vet whenever required.

My mother leads a very simple life. Her day starts with waking us up for breakfast, and she makes sure that our favorite things are made for breakfast. I enjoy chocolate syrup pancakes, so she makes sure to make them almost every day. Then she works in the garden for 2 hours. She loves looking after plants and growing them. I feel like the two hours in the garden are the best part of her day. Her caring attitude towards everything makes her the perfect person to look after our plants.

Other than gardening, she loves reading. We have our little library besides my room which is filled with books that my mom had bought. A library is a sacred place, and we aren’t allowed there at times. She makes sure that our house is spot on. My mother is a neat freak. She hates when something is untidy or dirty. My mother often scolds me because I never put my laundry in the designated pile. She makes sure that our house is spot on, and the housekeeper leaves no work behind.

The amount of dedication my mother has towards my school is surprising. She always helps me in doing my homework and asks me how my day at school was. She has the sweetest personality, and anyone who meets her instantly starts liking her.

I would not give up my mother even for one day because my life would fall apart if not for her. She has made me into the confident and high-achieving individual that I am today. My life would have been a mess if my mother wasn’t there to help me out in every step.

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A Good Mother – Essay Sample

“Mommy, you’re home!” my four years old screamed as I walked through the door from my night class. The sound of laughter and squeals of joy could be heard all the way down the driveway. Moments like this are the very reason I keep going forward. It is verification that I am a good mother.

The word mother is defined as female parent. Mother is also defined as a female person who is pregnant with or gives birth to a child; a woman who adopts or raises a child. A woman is made to give birth to a child, but the manner in which a woman loves that child unconditionally is what determines a “good” mother from a “bad” mother. The child’s actions do not determine the amount of love given to that child.  They scream and shout, “I hate you” but a good mother is deaf to these words. A good mother is always there for their child no matter what happens in life or what decisions they make. They stand back and allow their child to make decisions. A mother’s biggest fear is that her child will die before her, but a good mother allows her child to go into the military or make life changing decisions even though they don’t always agree. A good mother is not determined by the physical process of giving birth, but by teaching, loving and nurturing the child.

Some women should not have the right to bear the title of mother. If one goes strictly by the definition of mother there would be so many who do not deserve the title. Some women bear children only for selfish reasons, such as, they might think having a child would complete them or getting pregnant would trap the man into a long term relationship. They never take into consideration the life of the poor innocent child they have brought into this world. A child should not be brought into this world and already be expected to perform a job, to love mommy or keeping mommy and daddy together.

When I hear my boys say the words “Mommy, I love you!” or as my little Nicholas says “Mommy, I lub you!” that makes everything else in life a little less important. Being a mother is definitely the hardest job ever, especially when they do something that is wrong and I have to discipline them. The love I have for my children comes so easy, when they come ask me to read to them or simply come lay down with them at night it makes my love multiply

I can only imagine what it is like to be an adoptive or foster care mother. To take a child into your home when they need a loving and caring home the most. Taking on the job of repairing what others have only broke down. A good mother models the good characteristics that a person should possess and builds those characteristics into that child. She takes every piece of the child that anyone has ever broken and glues them back together with the love that flows from her heart. The feeling must be so rewarding.  It is love and acceptance that determines a good mother not the actual birth. Whether a mother adopts, fosters, takes a child in, or gives actual birth, it is the love and bond that develops that makes her a good mother.

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